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Help! Mother of 3 confused about sexuality..

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Wintersnow · 03/11/2010 14:30

Hi, not sure if this is the right category but for want of another one here goes!
Basically I have always dated guys and have been sexuallly active fom the age of 14 but never enjoyed sex and didn't have an orgasm until I was 22 on my own and I've never orgasmed with a partner. Whenever I fantasise it is always about other women, I find men attractive looks-wise, have always been in relationships with men and am happily married but am starting to reaise that sexually I find women attractive. I didn't know there was really a difference between 'fancying' someone looks=wise and being sexually attracted to them as I was never in touch with my sexuality, I'm really confused!!!

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dustycups · 03/11/2010 14:46

hey! there certainly is a difference, i used to think i was bi but have now realised that im 100% gay as i find men attractive but not sexually attracted to them, but very sexually attracted to women!lol.

r you single??? if so get yourself out there and have some fun with some women and see how you feel about it!

HystericalMe · 03/11/2010 14:55

Hi wintersnow. I'm putting this comment in, not to encourage you to deny your sexuality, but just to offer an alternative.
If you love your husband, can't you both find ways to make yourself orgasm. can't you both be happy together because you love each other?
If you think you're gay, will you tell your husband?

Wintersnow · 03/11/2010 15:38

Hi guys, yes I'm married and really happy in every way except sexually... I am starting to wonder if I can't orgasm because I am just not sexually attracted to men, would this ring true for a lesbian?? I honestly don't know whether I would tell him or not, I need to work out what's going on with me though! I do find myself eyeing up women and not men - unless they are really good looking and then it's usually just their face, with women it's their bodies too, not that I make a habit of perving on people Blush!!

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dustycups · 03/11/2010 18:55

bit personal but is it that you just cant have a orgasm with him inside you but can with foreplay? because thats quite common!

i actually dont no what to suggest, but if your attracted to women then you r, it dont mean you cant be happy in your marriage!

how about u suggest a threesome Grin

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