Advice please,10 year old big thoughts on possible gay friend.

[Eddie16]

Hi there, I am looking for some advice please.
My dd's friend, M (female) has come out and said the she likes my daughter in a romantic sense, how does E feel about her, can they be girlfriends and romantic with each other (I am assuming holding hands, lunch together while at school, playing Roblox together).
E and M are just 10 years old, have been in the same class as each other for 2 years, have been friends for some time,we have had M over on a couple of ocassions during the school hoildays for a play and tea and M is a lovely person, polite, friendly, a lovely girl with great parents.
E isnt sure whether she is gay, straight, bi, I have said she doesnt need to decide at her age, she can work out who/what she likes and my DH and I support her no matter what. We have explained that there is nothing wrong with being gay and M is very brave to put her feelings out there at such a young age.
E isnt sure how to respond to M and whether or not she recriprocates those feelings.
How can I help E explain to M that while she is proud of her friend for asking, E doesnt feel the same way and would rather stay friends. Its so hard as either way, I feel like E is going to break M's heart and lose a friend.

Ah that’s difficult, but my DD is 10 and I really don’t think she’s old enough to know whether she is gay or straight. I would be advising her to kindly say that she would rather just be friends (also would say the same if it were a boy wanting to be her boyfriend, 10 is just too young).

How well do you know M’s parents? Could be worth having a word?

I have a ten year old son and there’s no way he’s ready for anything of the sort. He’s currently very busily hovering between strumming his guitar and analysing how many Pokemon cards he still needs to acquire (none). Jokes aside I often chat to him about such things (our in joke is that he gets in from school and when I see him I ask him”so, what’s the goss?” And he tells me the “gossip” in hear 5 which is largely among the lines of X was chasing Y because she loves him eww).

'I don't feel ready to be anyone's girlfriend yet, but I am happy to carry on just being friends'.

I don't want to be a girlfriend, but I love being your friend!

@user2848502016 I know them but only from playground interactions, e.g. hi, how are you, hows school going for M. I dont feel like I can say anything without it being weird/uncomfortable.
What you have written sounds like how I can tell E, to say nicely that she would rather stay friends and M is always welcome to come over for tea, roblox etc.
Thanks for the reply, its given me.an idea of how to start the conversation.

FFS they are 10! One is gay. Your dd isn't sure.

Just say exactly that!
Don't leave it to your dd to say anything. Text the mum:

"she is proud of her friend for asking, E doesnt feel the same way and would rather stay friends. "

End of.

"It's so hard as either way, I feel like E is going to break M's heart and lose a friend."

bullshit. If dd loses her as a friend because of this, then she wasn't worth having anyway.

They are 10. They don't need all this . They are children FFS. I didnt know anything about being gay at 10, I didnt even know how babies were made.
They should be playing with Barbie dolls not talking about sexuality!!

Tell me your 10 year olds have YouTube and TikTok without telling me…