Explain trans and feminist views to son?

[Movingonihope]

I’d like to explain to my teenage son (17) what the views of the trans community and the rights for women community are, without sounding biased as some of his friends are declaring themselves trans or allies. - has anyone got any short links I can show him? He’s not much of a reader.

I don’t think there is an easy fix here. It’s really hard to unpick that TWAW no debate. My DS (also not a reader) did listen to the Nolan investigates stonewall podcasts.

My take on it with DS is its alright to have an opinion, but please make it an informed one. Repeating shouty sound bites from the internet is just embarrassing for us both.

He won’t admit it but definitely has developed an understanding of both sides. So now tends to caveat his opinions with an understanding of why I may not agree.

Simple enough starting point

Ask him when he would think is is better not to have one 6/12/18/80 year old female that he has never met involved with him and a bunch of male only friends.

And then replace that one female with you and all of their mothers

He hopefully will be able to use that to work out why single sex spaces are a good idea and when provide him with privacy/dignity is a good idea and when they are not needed.

To work out his expectation for privacy/dignity ask him a variation of the toilet question eg would he be ok if the mens had 100% open toilet bowls in the communal loos ie the same as a urinal or would that feel odd and make him feel vulnerable on any level.

The problem is that he most likely thinks that people with GC views are all transphobic, when many of them are not.

Make it clear that you are okay with the existence of trans people and that they should have similar rights to everyone else, but there are a few exceptions, especially for the crazy 5% like Lily Tino, Lia Thomas.

That will work.

In the off chance that you are fully anti-trans OP, remember that those like Lily Tino and Lia Thomas are a tiny minority that the majority of trans people have nothing to do with. There are even trans people like Marcus Dib who speak against them.