I wonder if anyone can help.
My son is 24 and gay/bi. I did what we're not supposed to do and asked him a couple of years ago if he was gay. I knew he was and it's never been a problem for me or his dad but I think he's finding it hard to work through and maybe has a bit of internalised homaphobia. The reason I asked him was that I was (still am) concerned about his drinking and I thought it might be linked to him not being happy with his sexuality, and wanted him to be able to talk to us/ friends/ therapist. However this hasn't really happened, he's still very closed about it all He's never had a partner, has had a date and a holiday fling (both with boys) and maybe that's all he wants, but he was so happy when both of those things happened that I feel he'd like more of that! Both times the other boy ended things and I think that's really knocked his confidence. He is very sociable has lots of friends but not really any lgbt ones. He doesn't seem to have anyone to talk to and his drinking seems to be getting worse. He doesn't live with us, he's got a good job and in many ways seems happy but his interests are more and more focused on alcohol and I'm worried it's starting to take a hold of him and I want to know if there's anything I could be doing. We talk a lot but if I ever ask if he's been dating etc (something i can easily ask my other 2 kids) he gets embarrassed and closes up. I know he gets drunk and goes to gay bars, which is obviously fine but maybe not alone and extremely drunk. Any words of wisdom would be so helpful