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Is this backpack okay for my 14 year old son?

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AmazingAs1987 · 07/10/2023 08:06

My son identifies as a femboy (feminine boy) and I want to be as supportive as possible however I'm worried kids at school will give him a rough time. He really wants this backpack and I'm more than happy to buy it for him however I'm just worried about kids at school. Should I go ahead and buy it anyway? What should I do?

Is this backpack okay for my 14 year old son?
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LovelySparkle · 07/10/2023 08:48

When I first looked at the picture I thought that the bag looked really childish.
After giving it a bit more time I suppose it's not that bad.

If he really wants it I'd get it. People walk around wearing all sorts these days and it is more accepted.

WildCherryBlossom · 07/10/2023 11:42

I live quite near an art college. A lot of kids wear bags like that. My DC have to have black rucksacks for school but my youngest would absolutely love that bag for weekends.

Where is it from OP. Possible Christmas present.

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AmazingAs1987 · 07/10/2023 12:00

WildCherryBlossom · 07/10/2023 11:42

I live quite near an art college. A lot of kids wear bags like that. My DC have to have black rucksacks for school but my youngest would absolutely love that bag for weekends.

Where is it from OP. Possible Christmas present.

its on ebay

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CowboyJoanna · 10/10/2023 16:07

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 07/10/2023 08:44

To be honest I'm surprised he needs or wants a bag for going out day to day most people these days just take their phones

Yeah I don't know any 14 year olds who do take out a bag, everything they need is usually in their phone.

Er.....what about their exercise books? School planner? Pencil case? Lunch? Phone? Water bottle?

CowboyJoanna · 10/10/2023 16:14

Anyway OP that bag looks something more like my 8-year-old daughter would have. Please dont let him go in that, the other lads will rip him to shreds Blush

If he likes his anime (which my oldest two kids do) then maybe a more discreet, unisex bag would be appropriate.

This is my 13-year-old DD's bag. Very cheaply made one given I paid nearly £30 for it, but she likes it and it holds all her stuff.

Is this backpack okay for my 14 year old son?
Needmorelego · 10/10/2023 16:24

This is depressingly sad that a lad can't have a bag he wants.
In my 15 year old daughter's circle of friends this wouldn't raise an eyebrow - but she and her friends are all autistic.
Autistic teens are usually the ones who struggle to fit in with the 'normal' kids yet among themselves are just accepting of each other (and their taste in bags).
Perhaps society should take some lessons from that.
I think he should get the bag (or a slightly bigger version if needed) and if anyone says anything just ignore them.

TheDuchessOfMN · 10/10/2023 16:28

One of my dd’s male (gay and feminine) best friends had similar bags and style during his teen years. Literally nobody cared. I’m guessing maybe because of confident he was.

TheDuchessOfMN · 10/10/2023 16:28

*how confident he was

PinkRoses1245 · 10/10/2023 16:29

At 14, it’s really his decision, not yours.

Needmorelego · 10/10/2023 16:31

@TheDuchessOfMN I actually think teens care less about things like this (plus designer labels etc) than 'we" think they do. It's the old stereotype about "being bullied for the wrong thing" when really most teens don't care what other teens are wearing or whatever.

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 10/10/2023 17:55

Er.....what about their exercise books? School planner? Pencil case? Lunch? Phone? Water bottle?

The OP changed their mind after a couple of people said it was too small for a school bag and said that their DS now wanted it to go out with their Friends.

It would be a very odd Tern boy that took exercise books, lunch and a pencil case out with him when he was meeting his mates. If he does, the OP has bigger problems than which bag he's using.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 10/10/2023 20:25

Needmorelego · 10/10/2023 16:31

@TheDuchessOfMN I actually think teens care less about things like this (plus designer labels etc) than 'we" think they do. It's the old stereotype about "being bullied for the wrong thing" when really most teens don't care what other teens are wearing or whatever.

Agree its a hard lesson as a teen that actually other people very rarely care what you do or wear and they don't spend their time thinking about you! I was shocked as a paranoid teen!

CowboyJoanna · 28/10/2023 18:09

Needmorelego · 10/10/2023 16:31

@TheDuchessOfMN I actually think teens care less about things like this (plus designer labels etc) than 'we" think they do. It's the old stereotype about "being bullied for the wrong thing" when really most teens don't care what other teens are wearing or whatever.

Youd be surprised.

My DD goes to high school. A girl in her pe class last year was picked on for wearing fake new balance shoes rather than the real branded ones.

oneinamillieon · 13/11/2023 13:33

for starters it looks too small.
he'll probably get picked on for it because not only is it "girly," it's very young for his age.
if he wants something feminine maybe a pink nike backpack or kanken?

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