Dds Frind takes testosterone

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And another mum whose dd decided she’s always wanted to be a boy when she got to secondary school and there was a very attractive girl who dressed as a boy in the senior year.
Suddenly it’s all hates her body and wears a breat binder. I thought she’d stopped, but found out, no. I asked her to not wear it as it’s damaging and she stomped off into the rain, I thought for a walk but she stayed over at a mates and blew off sat job to do stuff with this girl and wanted to stay out again tonight with this mate.
she sees this friend all the time, after school every night, sleepovers at hers whenever possible. It doesn’t seem balanced and dd seems to be knackered, certainly she’s stroppy.
The mum is there but apparently drinks vodka and hides it. This girl also is drinking vodka too much apparantly.

the friend is a wierd mix of sweet girl with a beard. really disconcerting to look at as you don’t know where to look, or I don’t, I just want a good gawp!
dd finally explained that friend started testosterone at 15.
what do I do? I’ve nothing against this girl, but I am concerned at the journey she’s on and that dd is seeing her every day, and doesn’t seem to be studying.she looks a total scruff in her school uniform and doesn’t seem to bother doing anything but text this girl. She doesn’t seem happy either.
what can I do?

well, I would take the heat away from the other girl, and instead talk to your dd about school nights at home, and the plan to keep on top of school work.
As you say saturday job, I am assuming she is 15/16?

Approach it fomr the 'how can we support you towards exams' or something similar.
I think if you hit against the time spent with the other girl you will just get a backlash about she's my friend etc.

the other thing is to arm yourself with information about why starting testosterone while still a teen is so dangerous. Don't be afraid to be be blunt, lack of adult sex drive, underdeveloped sex organs etc. Be informed.

NHS GPs won't prescribe it without something from a padiatrician, and that would need to be via GIDS (gender identity service). But a private doctor will, so if she has access to her own money, she may be tempted to by pass you if she is over 16.