DD is 14. I was chatting in the street to her English language teacher yesterday who mentioned how impressive DD's essays and presentations about being gay and LGBT rights have been this term. DD has never said anything to us at all about being gay, but from what her teacher says she is out at school. (Slightly surprised that the teacher would assume we knew, tbh- I didn't really know what to say so just said something like "that's good to hear" 
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It wasn't a big surprise as I know DD has always been interested in LGBT issues. I am entirely cool with it and know her father will be as well. I would love her to tell me herself so that I can reassure her and be a support if she ever needs it. Not sure what, if anything, I should do. Options seem to be:
- mention it to DD.
- say nothing but redouble my efforts not to make heteronormative assumptions at home (I try to this anyway as I'm keen for my kids to know there are more paths in life than straight marriage and kids but I'm not perfect).
Second option seems the right one. Feels very odd that everyone at school knows but we (officially) don't. We generally have a very good, close relationship. Any thoughts welcome.