Anyone with a biromantic teen?

[Grassynoel]

My gorgeous girl is turning 16 soon and tbh I thought she was gay. She was never particularly girly and has shown not an ounce of interest in any boys at school. These past months I was wondering is she was asexual as once she asked me if sexual attraction was real or just made up for movies and she shows no interest in boys, girls or sex in general.

Over the weekend she announced that she's biromantic. I hadn't a clue what it meant so she explained. It all made sense to us and of course we're happy if she's happy and content in her life.

She seemed happy enough anyway but since she told us she's more confident and is acting like a weight has lifted off her shoulders the poor little pet.

I asked her today if she had been worried about it and she said she wasn't since she discovered it's a thing and she isn't the only one. She said for a couple of years she thought there was something wrong with her when her friends would discuss boys/girls or sex and she felt she couldn't relate.

We've always taught her that the world is diverse and love is love and I was so proud of her as she is proud of herself and who she is and she knows she's wonderful.

Anyway, I just wanted to see if anyone has a child in a similar situation.

Thanks for reading.

What does it mean? My dd is 16 and sounds very similar to yours. She has a friend who identifies as non-binary, has changed her name and dd refers to them as they.

Dd will only buy boys clothes ir very non descript t shits leggings and hoodies.

She can identify as a parsnip so long as she is happy. Ive ased her if she has any tendancies either way and she says she isnt interested in any of it, boys or girls.

Probably just a phase but i don't want to dismiss either.

I glad your dd feels able to talk about it

I didn't fancy anyone at 16

It's still pretty young tbh

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Lem she has had feeling for both boys and girls but on a romantic, level, ie cuddles and emotions. She doesn't have any interest in sex at all. Even if there is something sexual on tv she says she doesn't get it at all or why anyone would want to do it.

She sounds like yours with the tee's and hoodies. Thankfully she was always her own girl in that she does her own thing unapologetically and doesn't care what others think of her.

Bryony maybe she's young yet, who knows. When I was her age I was boy mad lol.

Tbh I'm not surprised at the way she is at the moment, it's just her iykwim.

Yes - will come back and say more

Just wondering how things are going. I have a dd aged 18 who sounds very similar to yours. She's been asked out by girls and boys but is not interested. She also says she's never been attracted to anyone famous either. She's felt like that for a while and had hoped at University she would meet someone and feel something but nothing! I've told her that maybe she is just a late bloomer in this area or that maybe she is asexual/aromatic/biromantic. She is looking tentatively at this community via discord/social media to see if she can relate to their experiences. It's early stages here but I just want her to be happy with who she is.

I also had no sexual feelings really at that age, I just thought I was 'frigid', not biromantic or asexual! But when I met the boy who became my first boyfriend they did start to develop. But I still am never someone who would have a one night stand or friends with benefits.... For me, sexual pleasure is only really possible when I know someone well and see a romantic future with them. I don't think that's that unusual?

Great she is talking to you 🙂

She still feels the same way and champions the lgbtq+ community. She is happy to talk to anyone about her situation. We, as parents are more than happy to support. We're also aware of the fact that anything can change as she's young and who knows what the future holds. However, she's adamant that this is who she is. I asked her recently if she ever felt lonely whilst wondering about herself and she said for a couple of years she did feel isolated and worried that she was different. She said the moment she hit on wording that described her, she just felt relief and a sense of, ok, I can move on now iykwim. She wasn't looking to be labelled as such, just a solid id. Does that make sense? She has told her friends and said it was no big deal to them either. I'd like to think things have moved on but sadly I work with a JW (who knows nothing about dd's situation) who regularly spouts pure hatred for anyone outside the husband/wife narrative. I pity him.

@Grassynoel yep I relate to a lot of what you say. I guess we just have to wait and see what the future brings for them. I think for my dd, reading about others feeling the same way has helped, she isn't alone and we have even discussed dating in the ACE community as something she may consider down the line.

@whysotriggered I reckon it's more common than we know. Lots of people prefer pets to people and like to live alone. They have sense if you ask me lol.

My DS, thinks he is panromantic assexual. Although possibly gay. He is too young in my opinion to really make a decision. (13)

There seems to be a need for labels at the moment. I wish they could just be young and not be thinking about these things so early.

I was a late developer, and as he isn't showing much in the way of signs of puberty I suspect he hasn't got the hormones yet.

However it changes nothing here. I just hope he carries on talking.

@quiteathome absolutely all we can do is make sure they are happy to keep talking to us, and make sure they know we love them. I think these days labels just help them navigate a world so full of information and inputs especially via social media and the internet.