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PenelopeWhipStop · 30/08/2021 14:28

Just hoping for some advice from someone who’s navigated this kind of thing before

What do you do about sleepovers? DC is 13 and female. In terms of sleepovers (for friends) we’ve talked about this and I’ve said they’re be no sleepovers for anyone who has a penis be they boys or trans girls. Last night she put me on the spot and asked if she could have a friend stay - this person is female but identifies as a boy. Spoke to friend’s mother on the phone to confirm it was ok to stay and the mother referred to the child as she/her. My child has said that the friend’s mother is not supportive of their chosen gender.

Now….have I just basically misgendered the child by allowing them to stay? (as I won’t allow biological males to stay). They slept in a double bed together (but for most of the sleepovers my child’s friends tend to do this). I feel this has put me in a uncomfortable position. I’m supportive of my child’s beliefs and her non binary and trans friends (I hope). The children are 13.