I posted on here a few weeks ago about how my daughter aged 13 had come out which was absolutely fine - but then my shock to find that almost her whole friendship group had all come out at the same time. I monitor her phone messages so see all the chats. They’ve now been pressuring each other to decide their gender identities and there seems to be a bit of hostility towards being cis gender. She hasn’t announced what she is yet - a few weeks ago it was definitely she/her but it seems like she’s toying with the idea that on some days she feels more masculine and wants to wear more boyish clothes so thinking she is more fluid - I have seen the word ‘Demi girl’ used in her messages. Now I am all for people using the pro noun they feel comfortable with - but the level of discussion about it on this group, and the research they are doing online, and the fact that they are all just going through puberty and mostly feeling quite yukky about being girls and having to have periods and grow boobs etc. Maybe I’m not being very articulate here but this is working against my wish to be open minded and liberal about it. I remember hating getting periods and all of that, I mean who likes it? Some days you want to wear baggy ‘boyish’ clothes and cover up. I’m trying to get my head around the idea of deciding that on those days you are not actually a girl and might not want to be known as she because of it. So while in theory I agree with the idea that people should be able to choose their gender identity - I’m not sure about this thing with whole groups of girls putting pressure on themselves to define it in a particular way. And when I say girls, I mean that I’m not seeing big groups of 13 year old boys having these discussion but talking to friends with children of similar ages it seems to be happening with girls across girls schools, mixed schools, state and private at this age. What is going on?