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[Nutlesssquirrel]

Where can I find decent resources to support myself and my family going forward. My DS has announced he's going to start oestrogen on his return to university.

We'd known he'd requested a referral to the GIC but it appears he's seen someone privately so it's progressed far quicker than we'd expected and he's not involved us. He's not forthcoming with information so we're pretty limited in knowledge regarding the process etc

I love him with all my heart and want him to be happy but I'm not finding this easy.

This is a challenging time for you, and even more so for them. However, in a practical sense, your part is quite simple - love them, and support them. If they ask you to use a new name, try your best to use it, and if they ask you to use female pronouns, again, do your best.

A huge percentage of trans people suffer significant family rejection and it is absolutely devastating. If anyone in your family rejects them, do your best to bring them back together.

You will probably go through a stage where you feel you are somehow losing them, however, I know a lot of parents of trans kids and that feeling usually wears of quite quickly as you come to realise they are exactly the same person. Apart from name and outer appearance, the biggest change is usually that they are just a lot happier.

I would also recommend caution when posting on Mumsnet - it is absolutely full of transphobes.

Good luck and remember that there are many who have been where you are, with the same fears and concerns, but who found a way through to a very happy resolution. It's not easy being trans, but very few trans people regret their transition.

www.bayswatersupport.org.uk/parents-of-adults

Perhaps this might be of some help.

Transgender Trend is another support for parents.
Mumsnet is not full of transphobes; it is full of parents who are concerned enough the challenge the narrative of all transitioners being happy ever after.

www.gendergp.com/

Now the above organisation which is an example of a private referral service is owned by Harland International, and in this link you can see that the previous "doctor"continues to advise, despite the GMC preventing her working as a doctor in this field. Link to follow

www.gendergp.com/statement-from-harland-international-ltd-trading-as-gendergp/

Basically, the more you can find out the better. A young adult who may need counselling for all sorts of reasons is not best placed to seek oestrogen "therapy" as a first solution to unhappiness, especially in a pandemic year. I have two 19 year olds and I would not think either of them should take this sort of step without some neutral parental listening on all sorts of issues.

www.bbc.com/news/health-51676020

Sending hugs OP. I agree, TT and the Bayswater group are great. Yes, listen to your DS, love him, but please be cautious about the medical route, there are so many detransitioners who realise too late they have been railroaded into dreadful decisions.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4187670-My-statement-in-the-House-of-Lords-today

And this 27 page thread OP Graham Linehan (sp?)

www.feministcurrent.com/2017/06/22/lisa-marchiano-trouble-transing-kids/