We lost one of ds grans just weeks ago. He came out to us nearly a year ago but didn’t want anyone else to know. Fair enough, it’s up to him whenever that will be. I’m just sad for him he didn’t get the chance to tell her and know how she felt. I know she would be proud of him still no matter what. Also my own mother doesn’t know. She’s in her 80s and she’s not in great health either. He did spend a lot of time with her since coming here age 7. My sister However who takes care of her doesn’t want us to tell her, said it would be too much for her. I know about her health and his other grans health but I don’t want him ever thinking we didn’t tell them for any reason. My Mum isn’t quite as I open minded to some things as his other gran was but she knows there are gay people and doesn’t criticize or say anything bad about it. I’d want her opinion for myself before him saying anything, but should I tell her on my own? I don’t know what to do for the best. He loves his granny so much, she’s done so much for him over the years - along with his auntie who he thinks is the best but if he thinks she’s even saying we shouldn’t say anything that could ruin his thoughts of her.