I've name changed for this but yesterday, at lunch, DD3 announced she was Trans, we were to use the pronouns he/ him and a new name.
I had suspected something for a while as she's ( I'm going to use she to talk about her before she made this announcement) been using a binder for a year or so now and has wanted to dress in boys clothes for a bit.
I even asked her a couple of times if she was wondering about her gender but she's always told me that she was female, just didn't like boobs/ periods etc.
She has a dx of ASD with PDA traits and has had a long held fear of being kidnapped, which is why she likes to look like a boy.. She also has a friend at school who is trans and is influenced by people she follows online.
Our immediate family are being supportive but DH and I are concerned if transitioning is the right thing for her , given her DX and this belief that she is somehow safer as a boy. She has two older sisters , including one gay who seems to be responsible for yesterday's timing, and a younger brother.
I'd love to know if there are any organisations that I can contact that don't have an agenda for or against transitioning as I feel DD needs help to work out what is really going on.
We also have the worry that she is at a single sex school. They have some trans kids there but they go by they/ them and DD is insisting on he/ him.
Any suggestions of where to find help?
We will make a GPs appointment but I think the waiting lists are closed around us.