Gay son and feel a bit left out

[IrishMumInLondon]

I'm new :) and in need of advice!

My oldest son is 15. I have thought before he may well be gay but haven't given it a lot of thought as it doesn't really matter to me one way or the other. Last night my son and DD (17) were watching something online - My son said 'he is so hot' about one of the men in the video, my DD replied 'you have such strange taste in men Josh who was it you were saying was beautiful the other day - David Platt on Coronation Street' She is laughing, he laughs and says 'yes he is beautiful'. OK in this moment I realise that yes son is gay and sister clearly well aware of this fact. I have to admit I felt a little left out but I know they have always been very close.

Do I talk to him or say nothing? I don't want to make a big deal of it because it's not. I just feel a little sad that he hasn't told me, the meanwhile he is chatting to his sister about boys. Any advice ... Thanks x

Do you have any siblings yourself Irish?

I certainly told my sibling all sorts of things I wouldn’t have discussed with my Mum and I am very close to my Mum. It wasn’t a criticism of her in any way.

Just be proud that you have raised D.C. who love accept and support each other.

He’ll tell you in his own time.

He might assume you know. I'm bi and tbh never did a Huge Coming Out, just mentioned who I fancied / was seeing if relevant to friends and family...They must have known you were around and might overhear, it's not as if they were actively hiding it.

My parents broached the subject with me by telling me they'd updated their will to cover any theoretical future female civil partner of mine and adopted child in the same way as well as a theoretical future husband and biological child were covered.

There were no questions, just an open acceptance of any choices I might make in the future.

It was really lovely.

Thanks for these replies. I do have a sister but although we are close now and I too did tell my sister things I didn't tell my mum. I know I'm being silly saying I felt left out, logically I know it's a daft thing to say.

And yes, I also thought that too. He was talking freely knowing I was around so he obviously wasn't worried about me hearing it which is good