Feeling alone

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Daughter had first day in school today with super short hair and glasses. Nobody said anything g. Literally nothing. Only I know that that is because they have all been WhatsApping on her class group WhatsApp bit excluding her. I only know this because a friend asked me how she felt after reactions to her haircut over the weekend. Was she ok? I spoke to her when I picked her up (without giving details) and she said nobody said anything. I asked to see whatsapp and knowone had sent her anything since she posted photo on Saturday. Only I know this isn't true. I have had 4 mums ask me today why I let her cut her hair like that and that I should have said no. Her little brother was even asked why his sister looks like a boy now ( he is 7) My husband is not talking, my sons are not talking, I have spent past 48 hrs crying. It feels like life for us was just getting easier after many difficult years financially and medically. Everyone was happy. 3 months later and now my daughter is the only happy one as she looks like a boy. Her brothers have asked me to make her like she she used to as she looks scary now and they do t like it. What do I do?? It feels like we all have to be unhappy for her to b happy. Please tell me I won't have to choose between my children happiness???

How old is she?

How old is she? Does she want to be a boy or just wanted a haircut?
Are there any other changes that she requested?
Tbh people need to get a life. It's just a haircut ffs.

It's noones business but hers. She wanted short hair. She has short hair. She's happy. Everyone else should be happy for her. Her brothers should be told of course she's not scary, she just has short hair (like them I guess).

Recently discovered she wants to be a boy.she has Not told anyone. She is nearly 15, been a classic tomboy all her life, has 4 brothers ( 3 much younger) . It has all started a few months ago. She was really happy until about 12m ago when her first boyfriend dumped her then about 6m ago they had a LBGT relationships talk in PHSE and she says everything g clicked then. It is all very sudden and almost forced though. I feel so alone as none of my friends will understand. They r all super into appearance, looking good, looking feminine etc. I am too but less so. It's important to my self esteem that I am well groomed etc. Just heartbroken

Have told one friend but she just got angry as is a real feminist and feels the transgender community r stealing our daughters and that their arguments make no sense; "being born in wrong g body" etc.

Rebelrogue; changes so far are super short boy style haircut, zero make up (used to wear lots) stopped personal grooming, will only use men's toiletries and throwing away all memories of her girl youth e.g. Photos, brownies memorabilia, quit all girl clubs she attended, given up all but a few friendships

It must be hard. All you can do is be there to support her, whatever she decides, because she will be getting opposition from many other sources.

Social transition is hard for everyone not just the child that's transitioning but also siblings, parents, grandparents all for different reasons. You need a good support network around you to get through this- support in school, support from your family, support from services (if Tavistock are involved give them a call for advice).

Your DC is finding themselves. If they are a boy and decide to go down that route then you can still go shopping and support their fashion choices! It sounds like a lot of your friends are quite traditionally feminine and maybe have daughters - why don't you try and make friends with mums of sons?