What is wrong with me re dd coming out as bi

[thesunwillout]

I feel like the worst most confused mum and I am just saddened
My dd has had a rotten bloody life,health issues, parent ex dh to be precise dumping her
Me,always totally there for her, on my own but at always there,and now I feel totally shocked. Shocked by my own reaction
I have totally supported her, all the right things and we have talked this over
I respect her, and love her and want only for her to be happy.
One of my best friends is bi sexual, I have gay friends
Why am I sad.
Have searched the Web, and have found some other threads but not truly anyone who feels like this.
Thanks.

hello I have checked back on this old thread of mine, just wanted to pop back in case anyone else needed the support and advice given here.
We are some some months on now, and I can honestly say all is well in my head, and I totally calmed down. I would say it was like some sort of shock that I, me, personally found hard to process amongst all the other stuff going on.
I too am peri menopausal, not in the greatest of health and i related to what others said here, about the conflict, your head in a spin, tears etc...
I think the pressure we all live under to get things right with our children, and to be able to manage our own struggle whilst sometimes almost blindly navigating theirs just got too much for me.

Hope that makes sense.

I think dd is probably bi sexual, and the announcement came, as it would during a surge of suddenly becoming sexually/relationship aware.
She didn't date the girl in the end, and has since fancied boys, so I don't think any label is necessary anyhow. To my mind. I say this as I too am learning about gender fluidity.
I'm going to leave this thread, and it's time for a name change now anyhow.
I hope I've made sense to anyone who is possibly finding their own reactions confusing.

I know this is an old post, but I’m feeling the same, my daughter has just started a relationship with a girl and says she is bisexual , it’s all been a total shock to me as she’s only ever said about lads being fit!

I can only reiterate my former advice, it is Ok to feel sad but just don't tell her.

Hi @othersideofforty my DS (aged 23) rang me today to say he is bisexual. He's a wonderful young man though I have to confess it's left me feeling somewhat discombobulated. I have a good friend who is bi, and is now happily married but only after a number of sometimes challenging relationships. But then lots of straight relationships are challenging too.

DS had a super GF for 18 months - apparently she was bi too - they split up for other reasons.

Looking at the stats it seems the incidence of people identifying at bi-sexual is about 3-4x higher ( at 7.5%) in the 16-24 age group than in older people. The world does seem very different with people much more confident about expressing their sexuality. Lots to think about.