My ds1 is 13 in few months he mentioned to me about 18 months ago he thought he might be gay. We sat down and chatted and I told him if he was then that didn't change anything but I also explained it was normal to go through a phase where you could find members of the same sex attractive. He seemed happy with this and we have spoke about things on and off when he has approached me with questions and what I'm guessing is comments to gauge a reaction from me.
He came to me tonight once his siblings where in bed and has told me outright he is gay and it isn't a phase . I gave him a hug and have told him again that nothing between us changes I love him and see him the way I always have and that I'm really proud of him for feeling he can come and talk to me and tell me I know it's been a relief telling me by the look on his face.
As with all the dcs I want to be able to support him the best I can and answer questions he might have but I know I won't always have the answers for him. I'm also worried if he is honest with friends at school and they fall out it could be used to bully him. He was bullied quite badly when he in the first 4 years of primary and it affected him quite badly. I had thought of googling and looking at online forums for his age group but I'm not sure if there are any available and I don't really want to push him into doing something I'm not sure he would want if that makes any sense at all.