How much information do I have to give? Ex at it again

[xstitch]

Received solicitors letter today demanding information on the guy I have been dating recently. This is including his work address etc. If I give XH this information this info he will make sure he gets the sack some way or another, can i refuse.

you should probably see a lawyer coz i don't think that this is something you should do without legal advice.let a silicitor handle it for you.

You don't have to give anything. Feel free to ignore it. The solicitor will think you're ex is a loon.

Ignoring is the best way to go. If he harasses you think about getting an injunction.

That's ridiculous. (am a divorce lawyer btw). Ignore.

You don't have to give any information at all. If there's a custody battle and the new man lives with you and is alone with the children, then his history is possibly relevant, but not otherwise.

Ignore ignore ignore. By no means do you have to give up any information at all.

(Not a divorce lawyer, but a lawyer who knows divorce lawyers!)

Agree with mumblechum (as always - also a family lawyer)
Just how is that relevant? If you were co-habiting and in a serious long term relationship with this guy them maybe, just maybe your ex could get away with asking for information on his to try to illustrate that he could pay you less (maintenance/lump sum) on the basis that this man is contributing.

If it is a new relationship and not serious then, what is the term I'm looking for? None of his farking business.

TBH actually getting to the stage that I would agree to no maintenance at all just to get him to leave me alone.

I can't remember but isn't there something that they can demand a new partner that has contacts with the dc has to have a crb check BUT it isn't your ex who has to instigate it, he doesn't need that info!

I would be perfectly happy (and so would he) to submit to a CRB check and would even submit details of earnings to CSA or courts. Just not happy about the prospect of my XH turning up at his work or phoning them in an attempt to get him the sack. He has already tried to get me to give details of exactly when I see my boyfriend, find out about his family and generally try to micromanage my life

xstitch he has no right to do that, I'm not even sure if the CRB thing is just something being talked about or has happened. I think he is just trying to bully you so ignore ignore ignore and remember every time his solicitor writes a letter it costs him money.

I suggest you go to families need fathers they are supposed to be excellent and are acutally not biaised despite the name.

"TBH actually getting to the stage that I would agree to no maintenance at all just to get him to leave me alone"

Yes, I expect that's his plan.

I learned with dh's ex that the best thing to do was just to ignore her. We would periodically get solicitor's letters suggesting that dh had done all sorts of untrue things. Mostly she was such a terrible liar that the letters were absurdly laughable. One said that dh had come to her house and threatened her with a knife, but she was so dumb that she specified an exact date and time and it happened to be an evening that dh and I had spent entirely together (never mind that she was a 2 hour drive away and I might have noticed if dh had just nipped out to threaten her). Another accused dh of not seeing his kids enough....this was on the tail end of a court case where dh was trying to get access to his kids. Another involved accusing dh of "thinking" about moving to America (other than the fact that America won't LET dh move there, it's not actually illegal to move someplace when you don't have custody of your children). We just ignored the letters and a second one never arrived from the same solicitor (I think she managed to get one letter a lawyer done under legal aid) and the ex just carried on as if she had never asked to have the letter sent.