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First visit to solicitor-what to take?

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SpiritualKnot · 12/04/2010 23:29

Sorry also posted this in relationships section as couldn't find this one.
Found it now though!
DH left 2 weeks ago, affair with girl at work.I'm going to see a solicitor on Wednesday (Day after tomorrow). Costs £145+ VAT an hour! What do I need to take with me? I've got a years set of statements from me and DH . Mortgage details of our house and our buy to let house. Also drafted a list of our in and outgoings for me each month.Savings details. Do I need to take anything else?

What sort of questions should I be asking? I pay both mortgages and he gives me £300 a month (was £500 before he left). We've been in the house 8 years and he's only given me this money towards things in the last 4 years, though he has paid for carpets, some decorating and garden work.

Our rental property is now worth £10,000 less than we paid but we are making good profit on the rent at the moment. There's £110,000 left on this house, which is worth £225,000 and there's £99,000 on the rental property to pay off. I'm in the marital home, he's renting on his own.

We have 2 children aged 18 yrs and 10 yrs, Son leaves to go to Uni in Oct this year.

Ideally, I'd like DH to take over the rental property, me have the house and some contribution financially for the children. If I remortage and pay him off, how much is it reasonable to give him, £20,000? But the extra monthly payment would be about £135 which I might find hard to do, unless he contributes?

Can anyone help? Not even sure what I'm seeing the solicitor for? Am wanting a divorce, but is this meeting a financial one or just to find out what my rights are? Don't want to have umpteen visits as wouldn't be able to afford it.

SK

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prh47bridge · 13/04/2010 00:21

The meeting is whatever you make of it. As it is your first meeting, it will probably be mainly about the grounds for divorce, costs and other practicalities. You can discuss the finances if you want and get a rough guide but the details will come later.

The finances will take a while to sort out. You will both need to make a full declaration of your assets less any major liabilities such as mortgages. You should try to agree as much as possible between you. Don't use your solicitor as a relationship counsellor or a shoulder to cry on. Keep meetings businesslike and you will keep costs down.

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