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exP assaulted ds' carer - police or written warning?

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cestlavielife · 09/04/2010 00:05

maybe someone can relate this to a parent on teacher assault and let me know procedures to follow? ie police immediately or written warning ?

basically carer took ds (he is disabled) to see his dad - she says they were at his place and getting ready to leave, to bring him back to mine. she went to unplug the charger from ds' computer (which he takes there and back with him) and he put his hands over hers and shouted at her to stop and let go of it, then told her to sit down on sofa; she says she refused to sit.
she says he was physically agressive and verbally agressive, shouting at her....

her description is exactly how he used to be with me, irrational type agressive behaviour...and i have no reason to doubt.

i employ her thru someone else so should be reported to her employer? certainly needs a record of the incident and a warning this behaviour is unaceptable...but also police report?

(there is police record from 2008 of my exP's common assault on me...he was cautioned)

she says that as she is bigger than him she was ok but still, was not on...

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bumpybecky · 09/04/2010 00:08

I'd go to the Police as well as telling her employer.

What a horrible situation to be in though hope she's OK and your ds too

Buzzybb · 09/04/2010 09:56

I would view this as bullying /assault in the work place so yes IMO inform the employer and the police Hope ye can sort it all ok
And maybe the carer is worried re her job ie I will not complain as it might look bad / like I cannot control a situation etc so you might need to explain that this is not unusual behaviour from your Exp and that you are reporting it as you have a duty of care towards your dc and the carer
Good luck with whatever you decide to do

slug · 09/04/2010 10:17

Police and employer. It's not her fault, she should not have to put up with abuse at work. By reporting this to the police you are telling her that you acknowledge that the fault lies with your ex and not with her.

MyCatIsABastard · 09/04/2010 10:18

Police.

coppertop · 09/04/2010 10:19

I would report this to the police and her employer. Your ex needs to face the full consequences of his actions or he will think he can carry on as he pleases.

Besom · 09/04/2010 10:27

Have you thought about what will happen in the future regarding visits?

prh47bridge · 09/04/2010 10:41

The police won't take any action unless the carer reports it. Your evidence is only hearsay. You did not witness the incident.

I would inform her employer and encourage her to report it to the police.

cestlavielife · 09/04/2010 10:52

employer is out of the country til monday but having now seen her full report in email yes will report to police - especially as i received text from him saying she should not bring children to him and referring to her "rude manners and nonsense"....

he dooes not get it at all...

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