Ex H and Access

[wirral]

I have posted this in Lone Parents too.

My daughter has recently been reluctant to go to her Dad's due to his new girlfriend moving in. I finally persuaded her to go and she stayed over last night.

I picked her up this morning and she told me that she had spent the night sleeping in single bed with a 13yr old boy. Son of her Uncle's girlfriend whom she has met once before.

I have attempted to tell Ex that this isn't acceptable but he just says that I am nasty for thinking the worst of people.

I am at a loss. What can I do? I no longer trust him

How old is your daughter?

That's not acceptable, even if you think the best of people.

It's not thinking the worst of people. It would not be acceptable to compel an adult to share a bed with someone they hardly know, never mind a child. It would be more inappropriate the younger the child, of course.

My daughter is 10 yrs old

I am so lost. I am worried that I will open a can of worms if I do something about this but really can't ignore it. He doesn't feel he's done anything wrong. I now feel I can't trust him. At best - what if our daughter goes into school telling everyone she's slept with a 13yr old boy?

Objecting to this does not mean that you harbour suspicions about the 13 year old. You are within your rights to insist that this is not repeated. Probably better to remain calm, though, when you do it.