legally stopping contact between myself and exp

[FrostyTheSnowgirl]

bit difficult as we have a 3 yo ds whom he has contact with via a court order.

is there any way a solicitor could enforce that he doesnt contact me at all unless its about access. been getting very abusive and threatening texts (contents in another thread in lone parents).

Also would i be able to nominate a person to hand ds over at contact time. I dont feel safe going to his house, they're a very volatile family and I dont want to have to see any of them

TIA

ive never ever replied like that before

I wouldn't bother with sending him a letter telling him to behave himself. He won't. He thinks you;re a 'woman', not a person, and as far as he is concerned, 'women' are only worth of respect when they are another man's property or devote themselves to servicing men (a lot of abusive men revere their own mothers). Women who refuse to obey are regarded as fair game for any kind of abuse.
Remember that while your DC have a right to a relationship with their father, he has no right to any kind of relationship with you. You do not need ever to have any contact with him if he can't be polite.

i certainly see what you're saying with the letter. Im seeing my solicitor on thursday so if she thinks this is a good idea before i take any legal action, that's what i'l do, like you say its proof that im trying to fix the situation.

however, he isnt the type of person to have any sort of compassion or sympathy for anyone but himself, he thrives on other people's misery