Practicalities of separation/divorce Scotland

[proudmummyof1]

Hi all, I'm a lurker who hasnt posted before but could really do with some practcal advice. My husband and I have been having problems for some time we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter but I feel like a single mum of two children. My husband has a well paid, stressful job and believes that this entitles him to live like a single man. I work 2 days a week and do all of the childcare, housework, financial stuff etc. I have previously asked him to move out as I dont like the person who he has become, but he has refused. Things have finally come to a head and I have made the decision that our marriage is over. We live in Scotland, where he is from but I would like hime to move out and once the house is sold I would like to move back to my home town for family support (approx 300 miles away). Please can someone advise how to deal with all of the financial implications & practicalities for when he has moved out and also the name of a good family solicitor in the Fife/Edinburgh area. Sorry this is so long...loads more to add but not sure what else to say. I feel sad but relieved to have made the decision.
Thanks in advance - I've also posted this in relationsip as not sure what was best

Your husband has as much right to live in the home as you do and the best thing is to press on as quickly as possible to settle the finances so the house can be sold or if your husband can afford it perhaps he could buy you out.

The Scottish Family Law Association has a database of family solicitors.

Also the publisher Chambers has an independent guide to solicitors.

Scottish Collaborative Lawyers is worth taking a look at if you are both interested in sitting around the table with your own solicitors to reach an agreement. Alternatively you can try mediation.

Once you have seen a solicitor and know where you stand and what options there are in your particular circumstances the best and cheapest way to deal with the finances is to sit down, work through the figures together and agree as much as possible. If you then write down what is agreed a solicitor can draft a separation agreement.

Hope that helps.