Sorry - this might be a bit long.
I had an e-mail this morning to say that I was invited to interview for the job that I have applied for. I phoned to confirm that I could attend.
My present employer wasn't aware I was looking for a different job.
On my application form for the job I have the interview for, they asked for references, and then asked whether they could be contacted 'without further permission from me'. So I gave my present employer and ticked 'no'.
So this afternoon, my boss phones down to me and asks me to go up and see her. I sit down in her office and the first thing she says is 'potential place of work'? (ie, school name - in a questioning manner).
Anyway - without repeating conversation, she was a bit miffed I hadn't told her I was looking for work, and I fobbed her off with 'I wasn't - it just happened'.
My question is this. What shall I do about this new potential place of work asking for a reference from my present employer without consulting me, when it distinctly said in my application form that they shouln't?
Shall I mention it to them? If so, when? Before interview? At interview? After interview?
Where do I stand if I don't get the job and it makes relations difficult with my present boss?
I would be very grateful of any help/advice anybody could give.