Sister's ExP lied to get Interim Residency Order!!!

[Mummy369]

Very long, so sorry..

My sister is in bits!! ExP took daughter for pre-arranged access visit last Thursday morning and refused to return her. Sister and both DC ill all last week with chest infections and off school. ExP rang school and told them DC home alone in the dark (complete lie), they called child protection who went round to house 6 hours later Threatened sis with "WE HAVE THE POWER TO TAKE YOUR CHILDREN AWAY FROM YOU!" in front of 7 yr old DS! Took photos of messy house, dirty washing and washing-up not done (big deal - ill all week, what do they expect?) Social Services went round Friday morning - sis scared stiff and wouldn't let them in, they went away. She spent weekend cleaning up and then Sunday morning ExP phones and says he's not bringing DD back. Several police and emergency social services phone calls later and no way of getting DD back on weekend. Monday morning ring social services for advice to get DD back - offered 3-day 'call-back', also visit school for answers, and see solicitor pm who advised sis to apply for Interim Res. order but need SS to sign letter for judge - they faf around for 2 days and wednesday afternoon say they are not visiting sis 'til monday and won't sign letter to judge 'til then. Tonight sis gets hand-delivered letter thru door - ExP got Em. res. order based on his lies!

Help - what do we do now - can't see solicitor til tomorrow - what to expect?

OMG - just about to post and phone call from my Mum - ExP also trying to have DS taken away!! He isn't the Father!! What the hell does he think is going to happen to a 7 yr old 'in the system'

glad things have worked out ok,
if he continues to undermine your sister their child she could get his contact decreased by stating that there is 'parental alienation' going on. this is normally used the opposite way when mothers are belittling the dads to the children to affcet their contact and it has been known for mothers to lose residence due to this so if he continues i would look into it.
Being negative about the other parent and their family can cause devastating effects for children and courts are meant to take it very serious.

Mummy369 - your sister needs to record what the child is saying. This may be needed in the future as if what the child is saying is true (and there doesn't seem to be any reason on the fact of it) to think otherwise, it will be clearer if it is all written down. It sounds like the exP is a little unhinged to say the least and is being quite abusive towards this child.

I think you said he has been awarded contact for half the school holidays? If he is behaving like this to the child, this does not seem appropriate. Yous sister should not be questioning the child or asking "leading questions" as in "and did he do such and such" but at the same time should be giving the child the opportunity to talk about what has been happening. Sometimes things can be found out by drawing pictures with a child e.g. "can you draw a picture of you at daddy's house" and sometimes this can be quite telling, or asking about "smiley" faces and "sad" faces
etc.

SSD do not like (or have the time) to get involved in private law contact cases, but if your sister genuinely feels that her daughter is ebing abused by her father, she should maybe contact SSD and ask for advice.

Thank you everyone. Been away for few days with DC's and DN's. thank you for all good advice. sis has started keeping a log of everything her DD says. interesting about the 'parental alienation' - will tell sis tomorrow.