Neighbour disputes over cameras, parking and threats of police action

[Itsaneighbourone]

Please help my head is swimming and I feel sick.

Semi detached. We own the boundary fence. We have our own drive. Tensions have been building for a while despite our attempts to be reasonable. She claimed she has to sound proof the stairs due to our 13 year old at considerable expense to herself. Said teenager is not loud and is small for age and doesn’t make a racket going up or down the stairs.

She has had lots of parties and made drunk racist comments out in the garden - these are recorded and were reported to the council all be it 6 months ago. Things escalated a few weeks ago she soaked me on our patio with her hose when I shouted she was soaking me she said Oh, ok all right and continued to water. We took advice from the police at the time (unofficially not logged although we went to the station) and they said it could be classed as assault. She set up cameras filming us in the garden (again just to reception to ask for advice) and we again went to the police for advice who said to ask her to remove them we did and she lost it refusing to take them down etc The next day we went on holiday and we parked our car on the road outside the house and my daughter was staying and she parked her car on our drive and was living at ours whilst away. She demanded we move our car and put it on the driveway as she said she wanted her boyfriend to park there as he was visiting. We explained our daughter was staying and needed the drive. We came back yesterday to a horrendous letter. The hand written letter says we have a conduct and behaviour towards her that is aggressive and we are bullying her and it has all been logged with the police. Furthermore it says we can not send her any signed or unsigned letters or knock on her door or talk to her ever again else she will go to court to get injunction out against us. She has said we can not reply to her letter.

Please be gentle I’m fragile and highly upset never had this in my life.

The racist comments are a hate crime. Report her to the police.

We have a very unreasonable neighbour who can’t communicate rationally, will always no matter what the request or how it is approached will be verbally aggressive and on occasions physically. We now just log with the police and do not engage. The police won’t necessarily do anything but that log helps because when it comes to physical assault they have a whole list of other events to show a pattern. We now have an expectation that they will park selfishly, will occasionally steal our bins, will have screaming match’s with themselves and unless it’s aimed at us we ignore. I know it sounds defeatist but they can’t argue with someone who refuses to respond and as a result life on the street is much calmer I don’t dread opening my door, we ignore them and they ignore us. We have a useful mantra only respond to the reasonable. Hope this helps, it’s awful living next to anti social neighbours. Finally speaking to your other neighbours might help- we have created a mini neighbour watch with ours and support each other when they do the crazy stuff they do.