Mediator delaying MIAM certificate after ex failed to respond within 14 days

[Suchaheadache24]

I attended a MIAM meeting two weeks ago, ex already knew I’d be attending said meeting but had told me via text that he wouldn’t be wasting his time or money on mediation or court.

Unsurprisingly the 14 day period that the mediator said I’d have to wait in order to get the MIAM certificate has been and gone with no response from my ex, so I requested the MIAM certificate. To my surprise the mediator has said they were going to give ex until Monday to respond. Now I had already spoke to the mediator about my ex’s controlling behaviour in the past however stated I didn’t feel myself or DC were at any risk due to myself having gone through a tonne of therapy and being in a good place mentally and emotionally. But having disclosed this, the fact my ex had said he wouldn’t engage along with not having received a response why the mediator would give ex extra time.

I did state to the mediator I would wait until today (giving ex 15 days) but that at which point I’d need the relevant documentation. Emailed the mediator today and had no response. Just unsure why they have done this and if they’re allowed to?!?

Well there’s no mediation if he’s not going to the session to find out about it. I don’t see much wrong with extending the time by a bit. It’s not much in the long run. Court could be interesting though.

I think it’s frustrating as part of the issue is concern things around contact due to take place in the summer. But you’re right a couple of days won’t do much, just more frustrating as it’s clear he won’t engage.. he has said it, and showing it through his actions.

As for court, I don’t think the judge will be impressed that ex has even tried to mediate with me but little that I can do.

@Suchaheadache24 Courts now have more powers to deal with people who have refused mediation. See attached. The first step - pausing the process doesn’t help the person who did attend in my view because it slows down an already slow process. The costs bit might make non participants think again though