Ex on bail. I don't have a solicitor. How do I contact re sale of house?

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Ex on bail. I don't have a solicitor as no funds. How do I contact re sale of house? Family court ongoing re child arrangements. About to lose my job and will need UC for me and DC in rented home whether to fund completely or need top up if I manage to find a likely lower paying one locally. One of qualifiers of UC in these circumstances where I've had to leave the FMH due to DV and have an interest in that property is that house is shown as on market for sale. I am renting some hundreds of miles away. Ex still living in FMH mortgage free and not working. I am unable to contact him due to bail (and he kicks off in family court of slightest sniff of me contacting him on his email so court and child guardian solicitors have to facilitate document exchange). How do I arrange valuation of FMH and put up for sale? It's not on police radar and I don't see how they can assist. No third party willing to act as go between either such as family members or friend. Divorce has been started online.

Do I hope that local estate agents might act as a go between? Likely ex will refuse to engage if they contact him to arrange valuation, How has anyone else dealt with this? Must have happened before.

As I assume Domestic Violence is involved can you get Legal Aid?

As you're married, you cannot put the property up for sale unless he also agrees.

If he refuses, you will need to wait until the financial order proceedings where the court will determine who gets what, and when/how/if the house will be sold.

Yes this. Contact a solicitor who says they do legal aid cases and just ask. You won't be charged just asking the question when you ring them up.

And best of luck

did you move out or has he stopped you going back??

Thank you for the responses. Left because of DV. No legal aid available as have interest in house and earn just that little bit too much currently, well until my job ends but actively looking for another as I have rent to pay.

Realise I cannot unilaterally put the home on the market however I need an estate agent valuation for financials as will ex. Unfortunately well aware awaiting court dates and an order for ex to obtain valuations will take ages. And then of course after that order there will have to be an agreed agent and price.

Will ask if local agents can give me a ballpark figure over email so I have a paper trail and may assist in a UC claim if I have to make one. You never know agent might pop a flyer through the door which may encourage ex into action!

If he’s on bail for DV why did they allow him to let you move out? Sounds mightily unfair and they should have assisted you with a DV order which could have given him conditions to prevent him making you homeless for 28 days. Sorry you are in this position 😢

If he’s on bail for DV of course it is on police radar.

Can the officer in your case help? What has been put in place to safeguard you? Victim support? Women’s aid?

There may be something useful here: https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/i-need-ongoing-support/#:~:text=DV%20Assist%20can%20support%20you,who%20can%20help%20with%20injunctions.

I’m not sure why you had to leave and why he couldn’t have been bailed to a different address?

I know, my DC ask why are we the ones that left and daddy gets to stay. Thing is my IDVA said they would put us in a refuge but could be anywhere in the country depending on availability and advised the further the better. Made arrangements to stay with relatives temporarily and ex then bailed to family home. Strongly advised after MARAC that we do not return to the vicinity. Hence renting some hundreds of miles away. I know unfair and in hindsight an occupation order with ex bailed to one of his family member's address would have been better. Police (OIC) still advising not to return to the town. I have a PSO and bail conditions. Unfortunately the DVPO didn't go through because despite OIC providing file and instructions to contact them on their rest day if needed, the police solicitors didn't use it and it was refused due to no evidence.

I understand this is not unusual from other people's experience. I think i need to do a step by step guide for anyone in a similar situation as really there is no joined up process and it really really depends on IDVA, area, police, court etc A lot of information given by Womens Aid and local DV organisations is not correct; they listen and provide the right noises but practically ..... don't hold your breath. Similarly, if you need accommodation and apply to the local council. You will have more help if you are a SAHP with no job and no interest in a mortgaged/owned property. If you work .....

No issue with ex being entitled to 50% of family home but it's logistics of facilitating contact for property when there is no third party available to assist such as solicitor (cannot afford re divorce as run out of funds and no legal aid available) or any family member or friend. It's even things like obtaining DC belongings which will have to wait until divorce court date.

Apologies for essay!

Can you ask citizens advice? If no joy there maybe try your local MP?

Oh I’m so sorry you’ve been messed about like that. It makes me so mad. They should have passed the case to someone else to contact that morning. Some solicitors do free legal advice for an hour maybe worth trying this. Also search anything DV related in your area, if you haven’t already for help groups.