NMO breaches
Has anyone reported breaches of NMO/OO to the police, and if so what was their response?
My ex was removed from the family home 8 months ago and both of these are in place. The orders say he cannot message me other than for making video call arrangements for the children, and say he is not allowed to return to the home for any reason.
Neither of us are legally represented and we have no third party for communication, so it hasn't been realistic to have zero communication but I don''t know how much is reasonable. I have had to message him several times to e.g. to get consent to take the children on holiday, and to check he agreed with school choices as he still has PR, and to get a carseat out of his car that I needed.
He on the other hand has sent me over 80 messages in this time about various things, things like what kids want for presents, asking for photos of them, but also multiple long messages about cms (he isn't paying what he is meant to so I am having to take it to tribunal), saying he will only start paying the correct amount if I take out of official channels and don't backdate it, and multiple messages about mortgage payments as he cancelled the joint payment without asking me, or telling me to take his cat to the vets, and multiple messages about collecting belongings which he left (I said it was fine for a family member to collect and asked they message me directly but he refused and sent more irrelevant messages). To me a lot of these feel unneccessary and not essential communication and a lot of the messages are long and manipulative. I am filled with dread every time another message comes through.
He has also returned to the house several times to collect post from outside or drop presents off outside which is against the OO.
In addition to this when he left on the OO he had left the house in the most unimaginable state. Basically totally uninhabitable. Boxes and bags and rubbish piled up everywhere, broken glass at the front etc (he had initially been allowed to move into the garden outbuilding by the court which had been completely full of a whole house load of belongings and furniture). He left boxes of my posessions in the garden where things like irreplaceable photos got destroyed in the rain. The NMO says he cannot interfere with/damage my property. This was all reported to the police who said as I couldn't prove the property damage was intentional then it wasn't a breach, and they didn't agree that the state he had left the property in constituted harrassment.
Following this he got various workmen to repeatedly enter the house for him with a key. They did this 20-30 times and I had a camera set up in the garden where they can be seen. He got them to take building materials through the house for him, carry a sofa bed through, as well as spy on me and the children and take photos and videos to feedback to him about things like where me and the children were sleeping. Men sometimes let themselves into the house when me and the children were there, and when I asked them to leave they laughed and refused, and I was then accused of being 'hostile' and 'unstable'. I had the locks changed and this was all reported to the police. They again couldn't seem to care less and did nothing, and seemed to think that as he retains partial ownership of the house that he has the right to get anyone else to enter on his behalf despite the NMO/OO.
Over this time he also made false reports to social services about me claiming the children are neglected, and got one of the men who had been entering the house on his behalf to write a false statement making up all sorts of awful things. Fortunately SS did not take any of it seriously, said I was being a protective parent and closed the case. He made false reports to the police telling them that I am psychotic and mentally unstable, and made false reports to the RSPCA claiming the family cat is 'skinny and neglected' and that I leave him for long periods and don't feed him, so an RSPCA officer also turned up one day which was very harrassing (obviously they closed the case straight away when they saw a well looked after cat). He also tried telling my GP and the court that I am mentally unstable and the court made me provide a letter about my mental health as a result (I have zero mental health problems).
I reported all the events to family court at the next hearing but they also initially were not bothered by this behaviour and allowed him to continue to live in the garden. Only when CAFCASS raised a 16A referral did another judge actually take it seriously and order him off the premises entirely. CAFCASS expressly said in their letter to the court that he is breaching his NMO and getting men to report back to him about me and the children.
The NMO also says he cannot post online about me. Despite this he has made comments in various parental alienation and fathers' groups that imply I am alienating and abusive, seen by several mutual friends. He also tried to advertise online to get a journalist to attend a hearing with him.
I am at a loss as to know what the purpose of an NMO is if all of this is allowed to just happen by the police and family courts with one in place. Has anyone actually had a breach of an NMO taken seriously by the police and if so what did they do? I don't know whether to ask them to look at the case again or make a complaint about how it has been handled or even write to my MP, or whether that is not worth my energy. The orders expire in a few months and I hate to think how much more he will do then.