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Non molestation order advice

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Ehr1989 · 17/05/2026 08:38

I am wondering if anyone has been a similar situation and id like some advice.

I have a non molestation order in place against my children’s dad. Which allows contact via a parenting app and should communication only relate regarding child contact. My children’s dad refuses to the pay for the parenting app so means he cannot use features like video calling.
since this has been put in place he has said he shouldn’t have to pay to see his kids.

He has the kids this weekend and he said my daughter wanted to ring to me yesterday because she was upset but he couldn’t because ‘I had took that away from them’

I have reiterated about contact being on the parenting app only. He has said ‘when your daughter is upset don’t go blaming me as this was all your idea’ and that it was me who chose to go to court.
he has said that I’m refusing extra contact with him which all I have wanted is stability and routine for them because he constantly does last minute changes and if I was busy he would want to know what I was doing and who with.

it has upset me today that my kids can’t ring me if they need too.

he told me he put the order in the bin and that I’m lying on what was said in the statement. He didn’t turn up to the hearing which was on notice. He said I’ve constantly ignored his concerns about him seeing the kids more. He has an opportunity for weekly contact and this year has only picked them up once because he can’t finish work always on time.

I really wanted to avoid going to court for a child arrangement order but feel this may be the only option now.

has anyone been in this position with someone refusing to pay for the app and not being available for your kids? We used to FaceTime before the order but still used the parenting app for messaging. I’d unblock him and call him so he can see the kids but the solicitor said I shouldn’t do this anymore. I have tried to contact the solicitors who supported me with the non mol but they’ve not responded to me.

OP posts:
Myfridgeiscool · 17/05/2026 08:47

Non mols aren’t made without good reason. He clearly doesn’t like it because he’s got less opportunity to abuse you.
Stick with it. He’ll have to pay for his subscription.

He is possibly lying that your DC was upset, he knows it’ll upset you.
Stay strong. Keep a diary of everything that’s going on. It always proves to be invaluable.

Ehr1989 · 17/05/2026 13:36

Thank you, he’s adamant he’s not going to pay for it.

i have been documenting everything for the last 2 years and will continue to do so thanks

OP posts:
Myfridgeiscool · 17/05/2026 17:10

Let him carry on being a dick OP. He’ll eventually want to contact you and he’ll have no choice but to do so via the app. If he contacts you a different way report it to the Police, online is easiest.
Abusive men don’t like being told what to do. Keep those boundaries strong OP, it’s tough going.

Dalmationday · 18/05/2026 11:01

I don’t know if it’s worth you saying fine you will pay for his app subscription (how much is it? How are you doing financially?) it would be cheaper than some of the other options. It’s not fair you’d have to but you would be buying convenience of talking to your child. Plus you wouldn’t have to unblock him on normal phone etc

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