I’m currently involved in an ongoing case against my ex-partner after I tried to leave the abusive relationship and he strangled me and left me for dead, luckily someone found me and called for help . The case is the crown vs him and I as a witness. It is due to go to Crown Court soon. He was my first partner after a 16 year marriage that ended amicably . During the relationship, we briefly had a very small private/adult-type account together I guess I tried to impress him as his phon was full with that kind of content he had screenshotted . The account was deactivated after a year with less than 10 other people ever viewing.
Recently, the defence have been pushing to ask me questions about the account and I’ve become extremely anxious that my ex is now going to claim he was unaware of it or didn’t consent, which is absolutely not true. It was so embarrassing the officers presented me with all screenshots of the account and the officer dealing with the case has apologised he has had to ask - said he finds the issue unusual and has pushed back for months but because the defence kept pushing it they cps said to ask me about it.
I think what’s upsetting me most is I feel like the focus has somehow shifted onto me (amongst the embarrassment) and I’m terrified of being falsely accused of doing something wrong when I know the account only existed during the relationship and was never used afterwards and 100% consenual. Although it was only ever logged in on my phone. His phone was seized at the time and I’m sure messages would be on there somewhere where we spoke to me about how turned on this made him.
Has anyone experienced anything similar where an ex has tried to bring up unrelated/intimate things during a court process? I feel constantly on edge waiting for updates and I’m really struggling with the anxiety of not knowing where this is going. My ex is a very wealthy man and did threaten me after bail that he would go to the end of the earth to ruin me if I spoke to police. I just can’t see how the is relative to ask unless they are planning to try prosecute me or how it is even comparable to what he is charged for.