Ex-partner applying for PR and CAO for child who is not his

[DesperateMum1990]

I have a 6 year old from a previous relationship. Dad is no longer around and hasn't been since 9 months.

I met my stbx when she was 4. We moved in together 12 months later and married shortly after. We split after 10 months of marriage, following domestic abuse. There's been no contact since baby was 6 weeks old. Hes now 7 months old.

Stbx started divorce and has put in for a CAO and PR for my daughter. Not his. Hes claiming all sorts of lies. She never called him dad.

A "leave" to make the application hearing is next week. Ive filed my statement outlining the domestic abuse, the fact he turned down contact for the pub and that my daughter has simply moved on and the application is disruptive.

Has anyone had an ex partner go for PR and a CAO of a child that isn't there's? I'm so anxious of him having legal rights when hes already disrupting our chances for a holiday by refusing to let our 7 month old have a passport

Yes, she failed twice (same sex relationship), didnt even get passed application stage. Altho we were not married

Hmm I'm a family solicitor and have had a client successfully obtain PR/CAO in respect of his stepson. Your ex would need to demonstrate a close relationship with the child, that if he were to be given permission it would be in your child's best interests, and that it wouldn't be harmful to her. In the case I am referring to, all 3 criteria were clearly met.

Even if he successfully obtains leave to pursue his application, this doesn't necessarily mean he will get PR or a CAO to spend time with your daughter.

@stargirl27 - thank you - was your client married for 10 months? And living with the child for 12 months only? And never undertaken parenting task, besides taking her soft play once a month, whilst i cleaned the house. I did school runs, dentist, doctors, homework.

Hes had no contact for 7 months - turned it down, when I offered him contact only in a public place.

The child in question was 4, parents were unmarried but together since the child was a baby, he knew my client to be his dad and called him dad. They had a very strong connection. It doesn’t sound as though this is the case for your daughter and ex.

Quite strange he wants to have contact with your daughter given he wasn’t really a parent to her!

That'll be a control tactic to get at the OP.

If this man is successful (and I absolutely hope that he is not) then the OP will have to remain in nominal contact with him, for as long as he keeps the charade up.

Make no mistake, this isn't being mooted because he has any interest in this child.

Quite.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne it is 100% about control. He hid the fact he was going through private law proceedings with his ex, in the run up to us getting married. I found out 2 weeks after we got married. Hes always been quite bitter about being taken to court. And now he wants to exert control and put me and my daughter through the same. There's absolutely no consideration for my daughter in all of this. Its about getting at me.

I even did all the school runs when 5 days post c section. He wasn't interested in helping. Yet now he wants PR? Its odd. Very very odd.

This with bells on

@Blondeshavemorefun - the sad thing is, there are Solicitors out there, enabling this kind of post separation abuse.

I'm pretty sure I read that the child must have lived and had a close relationship with the adult requested PR for a minimum of 3 years, so the application would fail just on this basis.

It's appalling how some people will do anything for money.

I've been told, this is the criteria whereby they dont have to ask the court for permission to make the application.

Apparently they can ask the court permission to make an application for PR, the day they get married. I feel like such an idiot marrying him! A week after getting married (something he pushed for) he completely changed and the lies unveiled. I sought legal advice on annulment but apparently it's so rare, I wouldn't qualify.

I think the fact that he turned down Contact with your daughter because it was in public is excellent evidence what truly loving ‘parent’ figure would turn that down?

if I’d been a step mum for a couple of years and really loved that child I’d show up to see them whatever hoop I had to jump through not turn down the chance .