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Will they take my child away?

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Futurepast · 01/03/2026 15:55

My ex was controlling and abusive even after I’d moved out.
i stood up to him re guarding our DD which did not go down well.
i seeked advice from the police, social services, a domestic abuse centre/therapy and my solicitor.
i always did things by the book.
after an incident involving my ex and the person who was picking up or DD, police were called which once again led to social services giving me advice to keep him away from my DD.
he retaliated by writing a false statement to police about me which was NFA and has now applied for custody accusing me of everything under the sun including child abuse and neglect.
obviously this couldn’t be further from the truth and I know I can prove I’m a fantastic mother and always have been.
But with these allegations being the worst imaginable how likely will social services or cafcass believe him and take my DD away even for a short while?
I’ve never spent a single day away from her in 7 and a half years. she also has autism with routines only I know.
has anyone else been in this situation?
will my DD be safe or be taken off me?

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Nerocostapret · 01/03/2026 15:56

Can’t comment as they’ll be a shed load of detail that you haven’t shared

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 01/03/2026 15:58

I would say it's very unlikely that your dc will be taken away. The claims will be investigated, but if there is no evidence to substantiate them, they will be dismissed.

EvangelineTheNightStar · 01/03/2026 16:03

Nerocostapret · 01/03/2026 15:56

Can’t comment as they’ll be a shed load of detail that you haven’t shared

This an incident involving my ex and the person who was picking up or DD, police were called which once again led to social services giving me advice to keep him away from my DD
who is to stay away from DD? Ex or person picking up DD?

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Futurepast · 01/03/2026 16:05

EvangelineTheNightStar · 01/03/2026 16:03

This an incident involving my ex and the person who was picking up or DD, police were called which once again led to social services giving me advice to keep him away from my DD
who is to stay away from DD? Ex or person picking up DD?

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social services advised me to keep ex away from DD as it wasn’t the first time he’d been abusive and violent in-front of her.

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Buscake · 01/03/2026 16:06

If children’s services had concerns about you you’d already know about it. And if you have been open to them recently they will conduct the section7 not cafcass, esp as your child is disabled. It’s a horribly stressful experience but remember it is all evidence based, and there is already a record of abuse from the father, and children’s services recommending you safeguard her from him. Try to trust the professionals and follow their advice.

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 01/03/2026 16:07

Gather witness details of those who will give proper statements. Will dd's school for example? My exh told the courts I was a prostitute.. Obviously he couldn't produce any evidence.. Mainly because I wasn't! He also reported me to benefits as he believed I was living beyond my means. He mentioned an extravagant bracelet ( Pandora given for Big Birthday) and a new car. Dm has bought me to manage the 500 miles I did every week to keep to the age old court order.. All above board..

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Futurepast · 01/03/2026 16:13

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 01/03/2026 16:07

Gather witness details of those who will give proper statements. Will dd's school for example? My exh told the courts I was a prostitute.. Obviously he couldn't produce any evidence.. Mainly because I wasn't! He also reported me to benefits as he believed I was living beyond my means. He mentioned an extravagant bracelet ( Pandora given for Big Birthday) and a new car. Dm has bought me to manage the 500 miles I did every week to keep to the age old court order.. All above board..

I’m sure her school will. She has a 1-1 carer all day every school day as well as sharing a teacher TA with 7 other children so I’m sure if she was in danger it wouldn’t go unnoticed by them.

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Futurepast · 01/03/2026 16:13

Futurepast · 01/03/2026 16:13

I’m sure her school will. She has a 1-1 carer all day every school day as well as sharing a teacher TA with 7 other children so I’m sure if she was in danger it wouldn’t go unnoticed by them.

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I meant teacher AND teaching assistant. So 10 adults to 8 kids

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Echobelly · 01/03/2026 16:15

This a horrible bit of bullying and typical of abusers... the courts and child protection will have seen it before and be on guard. I'm glad you know you can prove you are a fantastic mother, just hold on to that.

I doubt he can prove he is even a functional parent,

Nerocostapret · 01/03/2026 17:26

after an incident involving my ex and the person who was picking up or DD,

this other person - picking up on behalf of you? Or with him - and the incident involved the two of them and you?

Sprogonthetyne · 01/03/2026 17:44

Can you explain more about the incident?

Is it that your DD was having contact with ex at that time, and there was violence between ex and the 3rd party that came to collect her? You say SS told you again that you should keep her away from him, so had they already advised against contact beforethis? If so, her been with him at the time of the incident could reflect badly on you, so I'd be more worried about that them whatever crap ex has made up.

It's entirely possible I've misinterpreted, so apologies if that's not what happened

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Futurepast · 01/03/2026 17:48

Sprogonthetyne · 01/03/2026 17:44

Can you explain more about the incident?

Is it that your DD was having contact with ex at that time, and there was violence between ex and the 3rd party that came to collect her? You say SS told you again that you should keep her away from him, so had they already advised against contact beforethis? If so, her been with him at the time of the incident could reflect badly on you, so I'd be more worried about that them whatever crap ex has made up.

It's entirely possible I've misinterpreted, so apologies if that's not what happened

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Yes threatening and violence from my ex to 3rd party infront of my DD and she could have been hurt. SS never advised me before just a check up as that time didn’t involve her.
I filled the advice from professionals to a tee

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Nerocostapret · 01/03/2026 17:57

I’ve never spent a single day away from her in 7 and a half years.

do you mean you’ve need bee apart overnight?

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