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Stalking ex?

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Ncforthis2267 · 30/01/2026 18:12

Hi, so quick back story.. Divorced 5 years, kids 5050 since then, very low contact due to general hostility but nothing reportable.. until recently.

My eldest has been spending a lot more time at mine lately as says atmosphere at dad's isn't pleasant. He's 14 so I've not been forcing him to go there on 'dad's time'.

School have requested a family worker to spend some time with our kids which I'm supportive of. It's come to my attention through the family worker that dad has allegedly reported me to the school, police and this family worker for stalking and harassment. I'm a little flabbergasted, but not overly concerned as it's obviously not true in the slightest, so report away I suppose.

We had a Mediation session recently requested by my ex to discuss my son, as ex is angry he is spending less time there. During mediation he again accused me of stalking. I asked for examples which were he has spotted me near the primary school 4 or 5 times at pick up time on his days. I live 3 mins walk from school, often go for walks around my village, and also volunteer at the school sometimes.

His other example was he saw my car parked all day near a campsite he took the kids to last summer. I was working nearby and often cycle part way in the summer, so left my car all day and cycled to work as its a relatively safe spot. Didn't have a clue he was camping nearby!

Now, my legal dilemma... He admitted during mediation he has been monitoring my movements in my village near the school and making notes. He also admitted taking photos of my car while parked near his campsite. To me, this along with the allegations he's been making, constitutes stalking and harassment of me. Should I be reporting this to the police or just leave well alone, as the only evidence I have is his words during mediation, and presumably a police record of the false allegations against me?

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Hedgehogforshort · 30/01/2026 18:25

Just ignore him it does not amount to anything either way, avoid looking as petty and pathetic as he looks.

Meadowfinch · 30/01/2026 18:32

I'd report it to the police, and ask for advice. Explain that any encounters are inadvertent.

If you work/ live in the same areas, it is inevitable you will see each other sometimes. No problem there, but taking unauthorised photos is.

Report it, explain to your ds what you are up to each day, so he knows there is no truth in it, and his dad is being absurd, and then ignore your ex.

godmum56 · 30/01/2026 18:35

Meadowfinch · 30/01/2026 18:32

I'd report it to the police, and ask for advice. Explain that any encounters are inadvertent.

If you work/ live in the same areas, it is inevitable you will see each other sometimes. No problem there, but taking unauthorised photos is.

Report it, explain to your ds what you are up to each day, so he knows there is no truth in it, and his dad is being absurd, and then ignore your ex.

This.

Ncforthis2267 · 30/01/2026 19:22

Thankyou for your input. The first 2 responses are exactly what is alternating through my mind on an hourly basis!

Maybe a 101 call then for advice rather than making a report couldn't hurt.

Yep, we live within 10 mins drive of each other so the occasional encounter is going to happen regardless. I feel pressured now though to stay in my house when I suspect he may be close which is ridiculous.

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Hedgehogforshort · 30/01/2026 20:33

Go about your daily business stalking haas a much higher threshold than what you have described.

maybe make a phone note of why you are wherever you are as backup.

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