Any divorce lawyers please - ex has spent all our money during court on legal fees and excess spending

[Darkershadeofpink]

I don’t know where to start with this. My friend has looked at his court ordered form E disclosure and there are debts. We did vol disclosure and it was horrific, lots of moving money, large spending. It ended up making me very ill. I have cancer and have been struggling on self repping with no money to pay bills. I can’t get any help anywhere.
what will happen if there’s no money and he’s literally spent it on legal fees to so called defend himself against allegations of abuse please? I had to go down this route. I had no idea how long court was but at each stage it’s been leading to a fact finding which takes months. I’ve nearly collapsed so many times and keep getting very ill in my health and ending up in hospital. I have kids who can say there’s been abuse. I have evidence. Professionals, MARAC. I am also too exhausted to currently present everything on a Scott schedule. I haven’t presented it perfectly before and the judge tore me apart which has totally messed with my confidence.

please can someone help. I am going to FDA soon. Shall I ask a relative to help pay for solicitor this now and what will happen? Is he allowed to spend all the money? What about the femily he left behind - children and a wife with serious cancer? Can he just walk out and refused to pay the bills? Try to eject us out of our home, take car etc.
also can anyone please advise where I could grt someone to rewrite my Scott schedule and check the statement and align the evidence please? I know in theory but I can’t even look at it snymore. It causes such panic in me. I did it wrong because I did a statement not knowing how much to write aboyt each incident and now I need to do schedule with 12 allegations referring bsck to the statement and go through each piece of evidence. I can’t do that. The deadline was this week because they sent the order a month late. I wrote to court aboyt conflicting deadlines eith FDA but have received no reply.

how can this be allowed to walk out and I get torn apart by a judge for not presenting a document perfectly when I am seriously ill.

any advice v welcome or next steps I should take and what a judge will do please I am so scared

bumping the thread for @Darkershadeofpink

To be frank this is a complicated area of law involving add-backs, for which conduct has to be proven for which expenditure has to be found by the court to be wanton and egregious.

OP isn't going to get a lawyer to give proper advice on this. She'll have to employ a solicitor and pay them for a few hours of work.

Thank you. I am going to have to do this. But i have little money left.

Please beg any relative with money to pay for a good solicitor for you.

You cannot go it alone.

Also, there is a special, very hot place in hell waiting for your stbxh.

And another BUMP

My friend is in the exact same situation with her STBXH. I have been helping her through it, and it's an absolutely horrific process. I can't believe the rulings - it's been awful. Currently 2 years into it and he has no morals. None. You have my sympathies OP

Do you think I need a solixitor for children and NMO too? I got some advice and they said I’d end up with debts and no money by using a solicitor and frankly the outcome will be the same.

Can you get legal aid for family court?

https://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/domestic-violence-gateway-evidence-briefing-dec-2020.pdf

Contact Support Through Court for self representation advice.

https://supportthroughcourt.org/get-help/how-we-help/our-service-provision/

Also Advocate might be able to help if you don't qualify for legal aid.

https://weareadvocate.org.uk/apply-for-help/how-our-service-works.html

A good Mackenzie friend might help you with the court bundle for the divorce for a cheaper fee.

Also a good resource here

https://getcourtready.co.uk/

Thank you. Sorry for delay. I am exhausted. I have tried all these. No help so far. On list for free barrister but was told November. . Still no news

Can you talk to Macmillan as you have cancer, they may be able to advice who to talk to to support you. My friend had cancer + chronic mental health issues, and found them very supportive.

Thank you. Macmillan can’t help with this. They assigned me a buddy but she dropped me and said I can’t talk about this. Despite telling me all about herself and her problems so it wasn’t really a buddy to support me. Breast cancer now are better with stage 4. Macmillan in my experience seem to treat stage 4 like a death sentence