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Can dhs ex vary a CAO on this reasoning.

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AlwaysADramaHadEnough · 17/10/2025 19:52

I'll try to keep it short.
Dss 13 , is here eow and half the holidays, court ordered. Back in May dss lied about something in our home to his mum. He admitted it was a lie. His mum is still spinning the narrative that dss wouldn't have lied. ( and it was a silly lie similar to , other sibling age 5 called him fat - when in fact other sibling has said hes heavier than him ) And his ex has stopped dss coming. She sent a few emails stating she was concerned about bullying etc, to which we responded and explained the situation and how the lie was fabricated. ( not the 1st time he's lied.)

She's stopped all contact. Has blocked all of our numbers and Social media on dss account.
She last emailed in june saying she was applying for a variation because of this one lie despite being told the truth.

Dh has had to apply for cao in the 1st place , 3x in fact because his ex kept finding loopholes. There was also a fake DV case against him which was again proven to be a lie.

Dh is rightly so fed up with constant battles Over 12 years. The CAO has been in place 10 years. Dh has stuck by it religiously.
His ex for one example, DSS was invited to a wedding on my side of the family. Dh asked to collect dss 20 min early to attend. She refused saying its not dss family ! ( my family have treated dss exactly the same as all other grandchildren)

We've not heard anything since the email in June have been blocked

Would the court even take that to a hearing as we've heard nothing

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prh47bridge · 17/10/2025 20:33

Given that he is 13, his wishes would be a large part of the court's decision if she applies to vary the CAO and could be decisive.

If she applies to vary the CAO it would go to court. The fact you have heard nothing suggests she has not done so. Indeed, she may simply rely on your husband doing nothing. He needs to apply to enforce the existing order.

AlwaysADramaHadEnough · 17/10/2025 22:02

OK thanks. I think that will definitely be the next step.
We weren't sure if there was a backlog / delays as to why we've not heard anything

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