Child Arrangements and older half-siblings

[ProvoPrincess]

Would a family court take into consideration a child’s relationships with half-siblings that they currently live with have been brought up with.

If a parent did not wish for example for a child to go to a fee paying school as the older half siblings don’t. What would the court decide.

Could the parent refuse an expensive holiday as it would cause resentment in the home?

Why would someone not want their partner to pay for their child to have the best education, very strange just because their half siblings dad can’t afford to pay!!!!

I am worried about differences will cause the children’s very close relationship to disintegrate which won’t be beneficial for anyone. I want a legal perspective, whether sibling relationships would be taken into account.

I can't see any court stopping acess for the NRP because of the value of a holiday.

I think with school it might be different if the school is further away or you would be expected to pay some of the fees.

Overall it is down to you (I assume you are the parent to all children) to explain the difference between their dads. Refusing one child opportunities that their parent is able to provide will also cause resentment. Tricky, but you just have to roll with it.

A judge would look at what os best for the child and that includes their relationship with their resident stepchildren. However, that won't be deemed more important than their education.

Nobody can assume that one child going to private school will automatically lead to a relationship failure resulting in serious emotional harm to the child. It would be mainly up to the parents do manage the dynamics and insure this doesn't happen.

It's common for families to have one child in private and not the other, even when blood siblings, for many different reasons.

Surely resentment could build up either way though...the child who doesn't get the opportunities that nrp is offering, just because the same opportunities are not open to their half siblings, could feell resentment that they miss out on these things that have been offered?

Resentment from siblings doesn't seem a good enough reason for a child to miss out on opportunities that one of their parents wants to give to them , and the court would look at what is best for the child in question.

The resident parent of the siblings should be doing what they can to foster understanding and positive relationships between the children, as that is what is best for all of their children

If you object to private education that may be upheld but holidays, no , what the other parent does in their contact period is up to them

No, you won't be able to object to an expensive holidays on these grounds. I am unsure about education, i think it would depend on a few factors, such as who would be facilitating the child getting to school and is it doable for them.

In my experience, Family law looks at the best interest of the child in front of them, they are not particularly interested in step / half or even full siblings as needs can differ greatly and what's best for one, isn't the other.

I do not think for one second, the well your siblings didn't so you can't would be considered as the best interest of the child.

I would imagine the resentment would be quite sizable if you discovered that you were held back from opportunities for the sake of your siblings feelings.

There is almost always some form of disparity with half siblings as there is no control over what their other parent or grandparent does eg potentially they could be very wealthy and leave their estate to their blood relative whose half siblings won’t benefit. Unfortunately, that’s just the way it is.

It would be unreasonable if you were expected to pay but I think you’d be unreasonable to block your ex paying.

Your children have different fathers. You can’t make their dads equal by denying one child something like a premium education. I hope that the court prioritizes what is best for your child over what will make your life easier.

Maybe not the same. But I have two children; two separate fathers and my parents pay for their private education. My husbands daughter who stays with us regularly does not attend private. I’m not sure if there will be resentment there or not…! But I wouldn’t stop my children going.

Are you honestly that spiteful towards your child?

Danioyellow

I am genuinely not spiteful.

My children are happy, both together and at school.

My youngest one is doing well at state school and in extra curriculars.

I posted in legal as I didn’t want moral opinions but legal opinions.

I want to know if anything were to go to court (we are not even separated at the moment) would a child’s relationship with a half-sibling be taken into account?

Half-siblings with the same mother who have always lived together.

He treats eldest well and the same as youngest but if we were to separate he would no longer see eldest as ‘it would become complicated’ and he had the nerve to say that this would be in eldest’s best interest.