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PR and Non-molestation Order

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YourAquaCruiser · 28/08/2025 00:27

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Messy one.

Gearing up for the first court appearance of many I suspect in case against my abusive, controlling ex. Fighting for an NMO as after moving out, he now lives at the end of my road and surprise surprise - despite trying to “win me back” he has done nothing to show me he has actually taken any accountability for his actions and has continued to minimise and intimidate when I stood my ground.

I didn’t put him on the birth certificate as he had a “suicidal episode” early in the postpartum period. And honestly, I was terrified to do it but I just woke up. Nothing makes you wake up to the bullshit like a newborn.

Abuse has shifted to the windows of contact with our baby and so I triggered the order because my nerves were shot and I wanted to cut all contact but was afraid of his reaction would be aggressive (based on past behaviours when things don’t go his way).

His solicitor has submitted a cost application on the grounds that my injunction application is without merit. Which is laughable because my statement is corroborated to the high Heavens.

Have never been to court before. I just want some words of support and any advice from any mother who’s been dragged through this kind of stuff before.

OP posts:
Pryceosh1987 · 28/08/2025 00:37

Enjoy your time with your children, and enjoy every moment with them.

localnotail · 28/08/2025 01:10

You can get NMO if you have enough evidence to show in court. Its simply that - the more evidence you have of him being a danger to you, the more likely you will be given a NMO. Things like threatening messages, police record etc - I'm not sure if it will work if its just your word against his as its a serious order meaning he could go to prison for up to 5 years for simply not complying with it.

Contact with your kid is a separate issue. You should not let him spend time with your DC alone if he has mental health problems and if he is violent. Arrange a third party to be present. If he objects, dont let him have contact and let him take you to court. You also dont have to facilitate contact, if you dont want to see him its up to him to arrange something suitable.

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