Blocked by my ex and middle man not responding

[PinkBear35]

I moved out of my exs home 1 year ago with our 2 children. Me and the ex were able to communicate and reschedule our weekends if needed (it easy agreed that he has the children every other weekend) after 2 months of us moving out he has blocked my number and does not allow the children to talk to me when he is with them (its only 4 days a month so thats ok) his mum was our middle person, our go between but now shes not responding to me. He got himself a solicitor, I have been in contact with the solicitor previously but now they've stopped responding as well. He messaged me the beginning of the year dictating when he was having the children in the holidays and recently took them 'on holiday abroad' so I was told, I signed for them to go. I was only allowed to communicate with the children 2 days a week, 10 minutes max at the time. I then found out that apparently they didn't go abroad so I dont know where my children went.I know i need to get a solicitor and a court order in place to stop him dictating but I can't afford one.He has declied mediation, he will not entertain emails, notes or the parenting apps on any way! Do I still let my children visit their dad when there's absolutely no communication or middle person?

In a way this is not the worst case scenario

He is having the children regularly and he has set out a regular timetable and seemingly sticks to it

I can understand your frustration in not knowing where they are and who they are with but if he is generally a great father who you trust to keep them safe then I’m not sure that you should pay thousands to ask a judge to set contact differently or insist on certain use of family apps

Does he pay you a lot in maintenance? Maybe this award coincides with his change of approach?

is there someone new on the scene maybe?

@Quitelikeit I totally understand you and have thought this myself, I am so confused with my situation lol.
No, we had agreed how.much he would pay me, and he did pay it then a few mo ths ago I received a letter from chuld maintenance services to say that he has gone through them and I would be getting a different amount (less than half what we agreed) and the figure he told them that he earns is not correct (i used to do his invoices) so I know how much he earns but as he works a lot for cash in hand hes not putting g half as much though the bank and yes there is someone knew, she got introduced to my children 2 mo the after I moved out