Seperation

[Lauray21]

Myself and my now ex partner have a bought house and a one year old son. I’ve only been back at work for two weeks after mat leave so I have no money for legal fees. I’m uncomfortable living in the house with him but don’t know what other option I have. I’m pretty sure I can’t stay somewhere else with my son without his consent? It’s a toxic environment and no good for my little one. He initially agreed to letting me buy him out of the house but is now refusing and insists we sell the house. I’m worried about all the upheaval for my child 😭

Sorry you’re struggling OP. You can absolutely move out with your child if you want to, but you’d need to be able to afford to, and set up a childcare arrangement so that you both have time with your son separately.

If you can afford to buy him out then I’d just get the ball rolling on that quickly. Get your ducks in a row in terms of working out his %, speak to your mortgage provider and get it agreed it principle, put that to him as an offer.

You should look into maintenance pending suit (I think that is the term in England) or interim aliment (Scotland) - you might meet those conditions.

Make sure you don’t go anywhere without your son. Can you afford to buy him out based on salary? You said you’ve just gone back to work so no money for legal fees. Maybe selling and starting again would be better?

I was married when I split with my ex and the higher earner. I did buy him out and I was pleased to be able to, but at times I think a fresh start could have been better. I had lived here six years already when we split and done quite a lot to it so it made sense to stay.

Sorry you’re going through this - hope you’ve got friends you can lean on x

Given OP has said “ex partner” I’d assume they are not married and so this would not apply.