PR removed from father- examples

[Jackofallmasterofnone]

Hello, I'm mother to a 10yr old, 2yr old and 1yr old.
The 10yr old is ex-husband's biologically, father of the youngest is my fiancée and has lived with us for 6 years.
My 10yr old is gay/potentially trans. This has caused issues with biological father to the point that a year ago 10yr old said no more and stopped contact. Never wants to see father again.

I've checked in regularly through the year and if anything it's becoming more adamant and 10yr old said the far happier without father in their life.

10yr old wants to take stepdads name and be adopted by him once we're married.

I've explained this to biological dad, he's not replied. I've sent two emails to two different email addresses, i know he uses them so they've got through.

Next step would be recorded post so i could show he's been given the information and the child's opinions.

Biological father has made no efforts to contact the child or me over the year except a Christmas card and attempting to add child in Snapchat, this was rejected by child.

Child doesn't want a different name than everyone else in the house and wants no connection to their father. There has been a lot of emotional abuse of the years, threatening to cut hair while they slept and saying things like, "you're a freak". I tried for years to work with father but he is a very abusive person and refused to acknowledge the impact his actions had.

Long story short.... Has anyone had experience of this in family court, UK? What is the success rate of removing PR/changing name if both parents don't agree?
I'm assuming he'll not agree.
What is the criteria they need if you don't feel it currently would be possible?

I got my two first kids names changed in court, despite the father being against it. The only reason the judge agreed it is because the man had been convicted of raping my baby sitter and the kids had his surname. It was 100% in their best interests and the judge also gave my new DH a residency order for them in case anything happened to me so all of my kids would stay together with him.

The chances of this being allowed in your case are slim as the father HAS reached out and on more than one occasion. He’s trying. But your child can call themselves/be known as whatever they want. And unfortunately for you the climate of affirming trans children has shifted. What you see as protecting your child and affirming, the court could possibly say that the father is doing the same thing by refusing to support transition. ( I’m not saying I agree or don’t btw). I think you need to go to see a solicitor.

The only way your ex-husband's parental responsibility can be removed is by adoption. Any application to the courts to remove his PR will fail.

The courts are reluctant to allow the father's name to be removed without his consent. You would need to convince the court that the change is in your child's best interests.

Thank you for the replies. The trans issue is really a separate one currently as we've explained to my child that we feel 10 is no age to make lifelong decisions and whatever they feel in late adolescence we will support. Currently DC likes to dress in the one genders clothing and his father is angered by this.

The courts have built into our child arrangements that father needs to support DC regardless of clothing or interests, but obviously that didn't happen.

The issue was the emotional abuse and threats which stopped DC wanting to know their dad anymore.

I'm feeling my best argument here would be to leave it another year so DC is older and a couple of years of no contact has passed, then explain the upset DC has regarding last names being different to Mum, stepdad and siblings.
A residency order is a great idea. I don't necessarily need his father's PR to go but I'd definitely worry what would happen if something happened to me.

I'll see what a solicitor says in a year or so's time and see where we go from there.