Moving from england to wales

[BeMellowFish]

Hey

I was recently evicted from my property and currently staying with family. I want to move to wales to give my children a better set up. I would move in with my fiance (3 bedroom house in a quiet village) I have looked into schools and I'm happy with them. We have a better support network there. 2 of my children visit their dad Wednesday to Monday every other week, but he is only off the weekends the rest of the time they're are cared for by the wife. I've offered to drop the children off and pick them up 2 weekends a month so his solid contact is not disrupted. They are used to the travel as we have lots of family and friends there and it's where I am from. I've also offered visits in the holidays and said he can visit any time. The children are keen to go and want us all to be a family unit (aged 10 and 13) they are happy to move schools and I believe it's in their best interests to go

Their father isn't keen on being 3.5 hours away from them incase there is a problem. Anyone experienced this and just gone?

There's nothing stopping you from moving. He would likely be granted a prohibited steps order preventing you from taking the kids with you though.

He has quite a chunk of time with the dc, he will have all evenings with them (really 'the wife' will only be supervising them after school until he gets home, let's be honest) as well as the whole weekend.

You're currently homeless with your kids, of course they want to move to somewhere - anywhere - where they have space of their own. They HAVE a family unit, where you currently are, and with their dad and his wife.

YOU want to move to your fiance's place 3.5 hours away. Of course their dad is going to refuse permission for you to uproot the kids away from their family and school so you can shack up with your fella.

I think you need to sit down with your Ex and carefully work through this together.
It's something that DH and I worked through before I even got pregnant and we both agreed that in the event of a split we would both have to stay living close to the DC.
How would you feel if Ex relocated 3.5 hours away (possibly 5 hours in weekend traffic). Your DC won't want to be doing that in a few years time, as teenagers want to spend weekends with their friends.

What do you mean, you will have better support in Wales? How? It sounds like their father is pulling his weight. New man might be promising the sun, moon and stars to get you there.
Could new man relocate closer to you?

How many DC do you have OP?

This isn't about moving to be with my partner. It's about moving to give my children a better life. No man will ever come before my children. I love him dearly but my children's happiness and future is the most important thing always.

Currently I am staying between family members. There I have a 3 bedroom house. I've looked into schools and they're lovely. I have way more friends and family there. Here I have nobody. I'm staying with family members but they aren't supportive at all towards me and never have been.

The children are used to travelling and I've spoken with them about how contact will look. If I had any doubt about my children wanting to go or whether they would be happy or not, I wouldn't go. End of.

I absolutely promote their relationship with their father. He is off 2 weekends a month and I'm willing to travel both times to ensure their contact remains. I'm more than happy for him to come and visit any time too

I have 4 children all together

You don't say whether the children are at school but I presume they are.

You need father's consent to change school. He therefore agrees to the relocation or you need to apply to court for a specific issue order. Beware though that it's not far off equal shared care so there's a possibility that the children may live with the father and you move without them.

This isn't about moving to be with my partner. It's about moving to give my children a better life. No man will ever come before my children. I love him dearly but my children's happiness and future is the most important thing always.

Of course it's about you moving to be with your partner. You're moving them 3.5hours away from their dad, their school, their friends, family and the only life they've known.

You say you're willing to travel for each visit. That's 7 hours on a Friday, seven hours on a Sunday to take them and drop them off. I bet my house that lasts a month.

Your ex could and should apply for a specific issues order to stop you taking the kids with yo to Wales. Stop kidding yourself it's about the dc, it's about you and your boyfriend - you're prepared to completely uproot their lives and reduce their contact with their dad for the sake of your boyfriend?

It's not in the best interests of the dc in any way at all.

Oh ouch..I'm not surprised he's not happy. That's a fair old distance away. It's all very well you saying he can 'visit anytime' but that's not exactly popping over distance is it? Does he not see them after work on the Wednesday, Thursday and Friday then? You say the wife looks after them but is he actually working away? I imagine any dad who cares about his kids isn't going to happily wave them off.

Would your partner move to your town?

This isn't about me and my partner living together. We have been long distance for ages because that's the way it needs to be. We don't have a place to live here and we do have a place to live there.

Not sure if I've painted a really bad picture of my situation but I'm not about to run off to be with my partner. I'm also not about to cut off contact with their father. Privately renting a property here is extortionate and financially I'd be much better off going there. The children want to go there and have done for a long time. I was simply just asking if anyone else had done it and made it work.

Losing your home is horrible and naturally I just want to give them a family home. This doesn't mean I'm going to bundle them in a car and toodle down the m4 and just figure it out later...