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CAO - why not fact finding when severe abuse? please help me

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Darkershadeofpink · 17/06/2025 22:28

I am LIP. Can anyone advise please? Had directions hearing and Cafcass said in their letter would go to fact finding. Abuse against children and me. All reported now bit some after the event.

District judge today had not read the Cafcass letter. He got ex the perpetrator to read out the Cafcass recommendations which seemed v odd.
Judge has decided no fact finding. I am stressed at thought of one but why would they do this? Does this mean not enough evidence or that they have seen enough to decide without?

should I appeal?

He also said he wanted to withdraw the CAO as it’s been too stressful. The judge said would not do that, not in best interests of children. I thought this was manipulative.

My question is during the one severe assault I told school they down played it and misquoted me, saying I didn’t think he assaulted the child. I did not say this. it’s outing but he put hands round child’s neck. The child was spoken to at school but too scared to say anything. The social worker came but closed case after short time. We were all covering for the dad/ex as scared and didn’t want him arrrested.

I am wondering now seeing the scant disclosure if this got missed because the child didn’t talk and because school said I said I don’t think it happened. The younger child did say it happened to school though and maybe to social worker.

should I appeal this decision? I can’t face a fact finding but wonder if this assault didn’t reach threshold as misrepresented.

who do I talk to to resolve this worry I have please? Cafcass school and court? Do I appeal? He is DJ so I didn’t want to question it. Is it because it will all take too long? Up to 18m?

he’s not seeing the children for a long period and no interim contact so suggests court are taking it seriously. But maybe too complicated and too many allegations for Ff. I made lots of allegations with evidence.

But wasnt on police disclosure

Also the police disclosure is literally 1 incident. Nothing I reported about me. Is this normal as not relevant? Sorry for all questions.
there’s a non mol and it’s going to contested hearing for that. Likely to be arrested soon as likely breach.

thank you

OP posts:
Bannedontherun · 19/06/2025 17:40

Hi i noticed that nobody has replied to you. IANAL but have been called to family proceedings many times regarding DVA.

You say the judge has not read the CAFCAS report.

I do not understand how you know that as he may well have read the papers in chambers.

Usually a decision not to fact find means that whatever information is before him or her is not in dispute. So there would be no need.

The other issue you have is that it is a risky business to discuss your case, or anything in the paperwork outside of the Court.

I do not know your financial circumstances.

I have had a number of friends referral for help from me, on every occasion i advised to source a barrister for the process which you can do, directly, if you search on line for a family court barrister.

They all had to rustle together the finances, but in every case they won what was only right in the circumstances.

Good luck.

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