Ex-GF keeping drugs for BF

[FunnyPoet]

Ex-Wife(typo in header saying GF*
(we share 3 kids * DD and DSs, all under 10) has a new BF and I found out he is a drug dealer and he keeps his money and drugs in her home as a safe place.

A few issues of concern and I need suggestions of what to do:

• She uses all the money I pay for our kids on drugs(all drunk confessions to me including a few of the below)
• He supplies the drugs
• He uses her home as drug safe
• He moved in just after 3 weeks of dating - alarm bell and it turns out he was couch-surfing beforehand as he is jobless.
• She has been using drugs along with her mother and step dad all this time and her BF provides them
• All her family hates me because I was the reason we divorced so anything I will try to bring up as a concern to them, they will say I am wrong and fight me tooth and nail.
• She has anxiety and depression and makes excuses for all this BS behaviour on this. I lived with her for 5 years and she never made such horrible decisions.
• I went into the home today after picking the kids from school as she had a medical appointment, first time going in since they got together, THE ENVIRONMENT is short of nothing but FILTH (days old bins, ben linen off the beds, no mattress covers, dirty dishes everywhere)
• I found out a month ago that my DD calls him step dad already and she saw nothing wrong with this(it's her choice apparently so she can't stop her)

WHAT DO I DO NEXT? WHAT IS MY NEXT MOVE! I have call off work all week as I type this to figure all this out and I went with the kids(who knows, she may call the police, I am not scared to tell them why)

I have a full time job and I cannot see myself taking them full time but They need to be safe ASAP. We had 50/50 custody before but This stopped so i could manage my work promotion and support them (she cannot keep a full time job to save her life).

I AM HEARTBROKEN because she has turned into everything she hated about her mother and she is somehow blaming me for how she has turned out becaused i divorced her 4 years ago.

disclaimer: this is not about you lol

Working full time doesn't prevent you having your children full time - that's what childcare is for. Thousands of single parents do it.

Apply to court, urgently, for residency if the children and start looking into suitable childcare. And gather evidence if you can.

I absolutely gathered evidence as soon as I found out about a few of the things on my list (texts , her talking to me about it)

I have a full time job and I cannot see myself taking them full time but They need to be safe ASAP. We had 50/50 custody before but This stopped so i could manage my work promotion and support them (she cannot keep a full time job to save her life)

Stop this nonsense right now. This situation can seriously damage your kids lives. You know you need to step in.

Are you in the UK?

You need to put a referral in to social services. Your children are being neglected and are living in an unsafe environment.

If everything is as you say the children need to no longer be in her care. Yes it’s tough being in full time work, but it is possible I have done it and I was working on call and weekends. I had to pull in every favour I had, use emergency Nannies and eventually get an au pair to keep my DC safe. It is bloody hard, the hardest thing I have ever done, but I kept my DC safe so that makes it the best thing I have ever done.

Put you kids before your work and promotion!

I can't believe you actually need to ask this question. Take your kids to your house and then Report her and her scummy partner to the police and social services for having and dealing drugs in a home and neglecting the children

Call in sick for work for as long as it takes to sort out a new routine and childcare and put your kids safety and wellbeing first.

Dont give your ex another penny and fight to have them full time. Get a solicitor involved