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Keeping child safe from DV

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Weightloss12 · 06/06/2025 13:09

ill try and keep this short. Basically 10 years ago I left my sons dad when my son was 5 months old because he was physically abusing me, my son has had an on and off relationship with his dad ever since, he basically wants to see him when he has a girlfriend and wants to pretend he’s a hard done by dad and I don’t let him see which is untrue, and when he’s single he dosnt bother seeing him or speaking to him for months on end, I’d love for him to not see him because he’s honestly an awful human being but I didn’t report the abuse so I’ve always kept the peace for fear of him going to court and getting 50/50 which he’s always threatened.

well that brings us to 2025. I applied for CSA in January because he’s been back in his life for 2 years and it’s about time he contributed, well he went ballistic and hasn’t seen my son since, I’ve given him multiple ways to contact me but he’s chosen not too, he didn’t even call on my sons 10th birthday.

The other night I recieved a message from his recently ex girlfriend saying that she’s left him for DV and she’s gone to the police, she told me what he’d done and it’s awful, To be totally honest I want my son nowhere near this man ever again, he’s abusive, he’s violent and he’s clearly still dangerous. Is there anything I can do legally? Now the police have a record of his DV. I just want to keep my son safe. And I’m worried he will still try and take me to court and pursue contact again in the future, once his next girlfriend comes along, it’s his pattern.

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prh47bridge · 06/06/2025 13:14

You can't stop him applying for contact, but you may be able to use the evidence of DV. However, your son's views will be a significant factor in deciding whether contact will be granted.

Weightloss12 · 06/06/2025 13:17

prh47bridge · 06/06/2025 13:14

You can't stop him applying for contact, but you may be able to use the evidence of DV. However, your son's views will be a significant factor in deciding whether contact will be granted.

He threatened to take me to court back in January in retaliation for applying for CSA, his ex girlfriend told me the other that as of right now he’s done nothing about it. And never seemed arsed about it. So it was probably an empty threat but it’s still a big worry.

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