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Anyone co-parent with a restraining order?

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Roxietrees · 24/05/2025 20:51

My ex is currently taking me to court to try and get custody of my DC, citing historic MH problems. He’s abusive and at drop offs and pick ups will verbally abusive and sometimes threaten me. I dread having to see him and feel very anxious. We can’t avoid them though as DC are very young and don’t go to nursery on the right days to make picking up/dropping off from there possible. Neither of us have family close by to do it either. I’ve also explored the contact centre option but it’s too expensive. I have a solicitor who is aware of his behaviour but she hasn’t really suggested anything I can do. I have no proof of his abusive as it’s always in person, he seems very conscious of writing anything over text. I’m very much alone and don’t have friends nearby who could come with me for drop offs. I thought about getting a restraining order (I think now called a non-molestation order?) but 1. How can I prove his abuse if I have no evidence? (He also physically assaulted me in front of DC one time and I reported this to police) and 2. What good would it actually do if DC still need to be dropped off? Does anyone have one of these and manages to share custody of young children? Feeling pretty hopeless..

OP posts:
TitaniumTess · 24/05/2025 22:09

Hi,

Firstly... Big hugs.

My ex has been a nightmare. The following have helped me..

  1. CCTV on my house on police advice.
  2. Logging his shocking behaviour via 101 logs.
  3. Using school wherever possible for handovers.. Eg I drop off.. He picks up. He has had two different girlfriends with children in the same class as our DC since us splitting up (yes, crazy all round), but now that both of them have seen through him and he has no reason to turn up at school when it's not his pick-up, school is a lot easier
  4. During court proceedings, to protect me, two things were instructed. The first was for me and my ex to communicate through a parenting app. The second was for him to stay at the top of my drive for pick-ups. Both have helped no end in keeping that nutcase away from me.

Hope this helps. Xxxx

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