Stopping contact with abusive ex dh

[Mommybearx]

My ex is abusive, last came to my house and the police were called.

what is my rights on not seeing and talking to him (unless communicating emergencies re kids)

his gf is pregnant but he still keep popping back to cause chaos

I want to be done, I don’t want to see him at 7pm when swapping kids (rather it’s school to school) or him messaging me stuff.

seeing as police have been called many times and and social have been involved when is it okay for me to say enough is enough- I divorced him for a reason and now I want nothing to do with him?

I’m thinking kids can even directly contact through a mobile with each of us

How old are the DC?

Do you have a CAO or is it informal.

Get some advice from The Police failing that Womens Aid

Contact order one weekday after school until 7 and every other weekend (with him)

lives with ( me) order

Last incident police said they would keep the file open until social worker took it

Social worker took the role but then ex dh didn’t consent to working with them

i re contacted police they said file is closed!

refuge said there is a dv law to say you don’t need to keep in touch but it was vague

Three children under 10

It’s up in the air atm as I have them full time and social working on him understanding the issues but no doubt he’ll get them back soon

With the CAO in place you’re going to have to find solutions rather than stop contact.

Family Wizard App worked well for communicating. No more direct texts and emails. There’s some free Apps too. Family wizard is a legal one so you can let court see the content if needed.

Could you change arrangements so he picks up from school and returns to school? It makes it a ball ache with uniform etc but better than them turning up at your home.

Take it back to court to use school for handover and I guess drop back midweek to a 3rd party.

You could stop contact whilst simultaneously taking it back to court.

Definitely use one of the court approved apps and state something like “Due to your abuse of me on XYZ I can no longer have any handover at my home. I will be taking this to court to amend CAO as an interim measure you are welcome to collect the DC from and return to school for EOW. I am seeking a 3rd person for handovers midweek”

Something along those lines. Block contact elsewhere.

That’s a good idea

we do use an app but the control games don’t stop on that

does going back to court mean a longed out process eg up until final hearing again?