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Friends Ex Partner Wont Move Out

10 replies

TheCoralMoose · 29/04/2025 02:14

Just trying to get some advice.

My brother has a close friend he has known since school.

His friends mum died 10 years ago and him and his sister sold the house and split the money between them about £75000 each.

My brothers friend lets call him Adam bought a 2 bed semi with his share.
In 2017 Adam met a woman in October 2018 she started staying over at weekends then stayed over during the week.
She has never been on the electoral roll from Adam's home or give him rent bought anything.

Last month he told her this isnt working i dont want you staying here it is over.
Her reply fuck you ive got kids i have a right to stay here.
The kids he has never met he didnt know she had any he isnt their dad.

She was in HA flat.
The kids dad has 50/50.
She said she isnt moving out and will be seeing a solicitor and a friend told her because she has kids she will be able to stay or even get Adam's house.
What should he do?.
She wants him to move out.

OP posts:
notatinydancer · 29/04/2025 02:24

She won’t get his house. She has no right to be there. He could just change the locks next time she goes out.

YourSnugHazelTraybake · 29/04/2025 02:27

He needs to call the police and have them remove her.

Thisshirtisonfire · 29/04/2025 02:35

Yes she's no right to be there. If the kids aren't his and they aren't married then she's no leg to stand on regarding staying in the house.
If she's got nothing showing she has contributed financially in any way to the house then she's not entitled to any of its worth.
He can just give her notice then change the locks. Put her belongings packed up outside and ring the police if she kicks off.
She's being absolutely ridiculous here.

GloriousGoosebumps · 29/04/2025 03:58

Given she's not the owner of the property nor a tenant she has no right to remain in the property. Adam has told her he wants her to leave, assuming she won't go willingly, he should take advantage of the fact that she presumably spends half the week at her HA property when she looks after her children and deliver her belongings to her there, making sure that he has proof of what he returned ie photos. He should then change the locks to his property. He's fortunate she has some where to live; it makes it all so much easier.

DonewhatIcando · 29/04/2025 06:44

notatinydancer · 29/04/2025 02:24

She won’t get his house. She has no right to be there. He could just change the locks next time she goes out.

This!
She has no legal standing.
He needs to wait until she goes out and change the locks.
Either, drop her stuff outside her HA place or leave it on his doorstep and tell her to collect it.
That old threat of "seeing a solicitor " is meaningless, even if she could afford a solicitor she'd be told she doesn't have a leg to stand on.

prh47bridge · 29/04/2025 07:47

You don't say whether Adam is the father of her children. If he is, she may be able to make a claim under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989. This could give her the right to continue living in the house. However, if they are not his, the children give her no rights at all. He can simply change the locks when she is out.

breadpie · 29/04/2025 08:20

I'm confused... They've been together since 2017 but Adam didn't know she had children and hasn't met them...? But they are with their dad 50/50..? So where do they go when not with their dad?

Too much unnecessary info in the OP and not enough relevant information...

Why the fuck would she think Adam should move out of his house? It doesn't make sense...

DwarfPalmetto · 29/04/2025 09:45

prh47bridge · 29/04/2025 07:47

You don't say whether Adam is the father of her children. If he is, she may be able to make a claim under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989. This could give her the right to continue living in the house. However, if they are not his, the children give her no rights at all. He can simply change the locks when she is out.

The OP says he has never met the kids and he is not their dad. Changing the locks when she is out and calling the police if she kicks off seems to be the way to go.

prh47bridge · 29/04/2025 10:39

DwarfPalmetto · 29/04/2025 09:45

The OP says he has never met the kids and he is not their dad. Changing the locks when she is out and calling the police if she kicks off seems to be the way to go.

Missed that. Yes, you are right.

AgentLisbon · 30/04/2025 09:22

Sounds like the partner is confused between sharing children with the home owner in question and just generically happening to have kids. The latter gives you no rights at all vis a vis the property.

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