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My partner, I don’t know what we are ?
keeps asking me to move out and leave immediately. He keeps threating it, saying I’m spending to much money on mat leave and doesn’t like me going out.
I’m not getting into it, but I have no idea what to do or where to go.
Hes not abusive but we are not getting on and he’s constantly arguing with me. He said he doesn’t care if he makes me and baby homeless as he’s tried everything to help me and I’m not changing.
I’m servely depressed and he knows that,I don’t want to leave him because when we do get on, we get on really well and he’s a good dad when he trys.
i tired to call the council but the are refusing to help as I’m on tenancy agreement as well and I have to work things out with him and stay, I can’t. If I leave I will be making my self Intentionally homeless. I’ve got no money saved so I can’t go and rent a property? What can I do ? Please no “he should move out” he won’t as he pays the rent. He just won’t

He is abusive and you are very vulnerable.

Contract women’s aid and shelter to establish your rights.

Hes not abusive

I disagree.
Could CAB help?
Woman’s aid?

Tell the council you need to be housed to escape abuse.

He was an ex earlier this month……

www.mumsnet.com/talk/childcare/5315880-single-mother-help?reply=143577659

Hes said he will make me leave, force me to get out if it gets really bad and I don’t change. I will know about out.
i have no idea what to do, he’s never hit me or threatened violence.
hes aways angry

Leave then. You just have friends or family somewhere that would take you in. You can’t stay there.

He keeps saying he are broken up them together. Not a simple situation. What are you trying to prove

Contact Womens Aid OP, if he won’t leave then you need to.

You can present to your local council as needing to be housed in these situations, they can put you into emergency accommodation. It’s not going to be an amazing place but it’s going to be yours & your childs, free of your ex.

Once you’re out you can check entitlement for UC & start claiming, get a job & claim childcare etc.

Nothing. This seems to be a volatile relationship given the posts you have created in the 3 short weeks since your baby was born.

Maybe you could stick to one thread because you have left others without any updates or indication that you have taken advice. Then you start another only to get the same advice.

You need to act on advice though otherwise this will be every week for the next however long.

Redefine your definition of abuse

He repeatedly threatens to put you and your young child on the streets if you don't do what he wants - thats abusive.

Womens aid and refuge can help, you could also try speaking to shelter:

https://refuge.org.uk/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
https://www.shelter.org.uk/

I would also suggest speaking to your gp and explaining the situation because this ought to trigger safeguarding protocols which would connect you with services who can support you.

I’d definitely define his behaviour as abuse. It’s not good for you or your baby to be around him. His behaviour could escalate. I don’t think working is the best option right now considering how young your baby is, plus you’d probably get more or the same in benefits if you didn’t work, considering your situation. Take advice from other posters about organisations to contact and get into emergency housing- it won’t be forever, it’s just a start to get away from that absolute twat of a man. You’ll be an urgent case and they should get you into proper housing fairly quickly, especially if you explain that he’s financially abusing you. He’ll also have to pay maintenance when you leave, and I assume he’s not contributing much now financially, other than housing/bills?