My 21 year old has done something incredibly reckless. Signed up to join an army abroad and disappeared one day to join them. We had no know knowledge of it until they disappeared early one morning.
We can only speak to them for a few minutes once a week. They have disclosed that they have emptied their British bank account (most of the money was spent in travel to this location anyway), opened an account in the county they are in now.
They said they ran up credit card debts, klana debts before they left and will not be paying as it isn’t their problem now.
So far, we have had car insurance emailing us. Only because dh helped them get it and so it’s linked to his email, but it’s in dc name. They owe payments (looks like they must have stopped paying bills the last few months before they left to say for flights), dh called and said they don’t live here anymore. They said nothing they can do, they can’t close the account. It’s getting passed to debt collection.
When we speak to dc they refuse to talk about it saying they will never return to UK, so they don’t care. They are in an extremely dangerous place and I don’t want to push them away by going on about this. I know the only way they are coming home is in a box, so I don’t want to ruin the few mins I can speak a week with arguments.
We have no proof of where they are now. I know the country, but they won’t tell me where the military base is.
What do I do if it gets to the point where bayliffs turn up? I can’t prove they don’t live here. All post for them gets marked not known at this address, return to sender.
Im also really ill and this is all making me worse. I don’t have the money to pay anything for them.